(Closed) Wedding Invites with no return stamp on RSVP? Common?

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I wouldn’t say tacky.  She may have needed to trim the budget or maybe it didn’t cross her mind.  I was suprised by the number of people who said “Oh look, you even put a stamp on it, that’s convenient”.  Uh yeah..you’re supposed to…lol

Post # 4
46383 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think it is appropriate to have a discussion about whether or not something is tacky. It is asking people to be judgemental.

Post # 6
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@pcoelho: I don’t happen to think it’s tacky. I don’t even think that including the stationary for responding is absolutely required especially if responses by telephone or email are accepted.

They are inviting you to share in their special day; you should be honored to be thought of and invited; all they are asking in return for the favor of your response.

Post # 7
1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Maybe she just forgot.  I was so scared when we sent out our invites that we’d forget to put a stamp on an RSVP lol

Post # 8
1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve honestly never gotten an invite WITH a stamp. It wasn’t until I came here that I found out you needed stamps.

Post # 10
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think so.  Traditional etiquette doesn’t even accommodate for an RSVP card.  You’re supposed to write back on your own personal stationery.  I think adding the stamp is a lovely gesture, but so many people didn’t even bother to send back the RSVP and just called/emailed/facebooked me… that I almost don’t think it’s worth it anymore.

Post # 11
1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

It’s tacky for guests to expect/miss the stamp.

Proper etiquette says you’re technically supposed to write out a response on your own paper, put it in your own envelope, address it yourself and mail it.

The inclusion of a SASE is a nice gesture but definitely not required, and actually some people (like Miss Manners!) are rather offended by it. It implies that the guests are uncouth, rude people who don’t know how to reply without the bride practically writing their RSVP in for them.

Post # 12
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I forgot the stamp on one envelope  (not sure how it happened, we double checked them all), and was told on facebook by the recipient that she was coming but not mailing back the rsvp because she didn’t feel like buying a stamp.

Post # 13
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@SweetSara: Honestly, I think that’s what I would do.  I’m not one to keep stamps around the house (although I feel like I probably should for the future)…and our local post office has 20 minute long lineups.  If I could just facebook/email, I would, and wouldn’t feel bad about it.

Post # 14
4485 posts
Honey bee

It’s pretty rare (unheard of to most people) to skip the stamp.

Post # 15
4418 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’ve received invitations that give a phone number on the invitation for the R.s.v.p., and no response card was included. 

Post # 16
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Loribeth: Me too. I absolutely hate this. Maybe people don’t realize how some guests are super shy, but I don’t want to have to call to RSVP! I would hope they would at lease include an email address instead.

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