Post # 1
I bought this dress 11 months ago and I was doubtful about it then. I created a post soon after and got a lot of positive feedback here saying how the dress looked great. I figured between losing weight and getting the proper alterations I’d love it. Well, the time has come, the alterations are complete, and I don’t love it. Even though I’ve lost 23 pounds all I can think about are the imperfections I see (back fat, arm pit fit, stomach bulge) where I didn’t lose enough weight (I wanted to lose 30lbs ) and the reasons the dress isn’t special. To me, it’s missing that wow factor, whether it’s not intricate or unique enough I’m not sure. My entire family thinks the dress is gorgeous and made for me. My grandmother saw it for the first time today at my last fitting and she said it is perfect and I wear the dress, it doesn’t wear me, which is really important. For some reason I just don’t see it. It was over $3k with alterations and there’s simply no time or budget left to buy a new one, my wedding is in 19 days. What do I do?
Post # 2
Your body is banging 👌🏼 I know this probably doesn’t help but I think it’s stunning. What jewellery are you wearing with it?
Post # 3
iscnrr1331 : I am truly sorry you are not loving your dress but I think it is gorgeous and you also will be breathtaking on your big day. You are going to get so many compliments so let me get mine on in there beforehand!
Seriously. Nothing to worry about. Not.One.Thing. You got the curves and everything perfect for that dress. Congrats on losing the pounds and I think you lost just enough to fill out the gown very nicely and elegantly.
As for what to do? Well you wear the heck out of that gorgeous dress as I’m positive you will!
Post # 4
thumperbear : thank you so much, I think I might have a body image issue. I just don’t see what other people see. most of my jewelery isn’t visible in the pic, I’m wearing the bracelet pictured, a golden flower vine around my head and long earrings that complement. I tried on belts but liked it better without.
Post # 5
I almost never comment on “dress regret” posts, but I have to tell you that you look absolutely perfect! The regret you are feeling is just your nerves talking. Take a deep breath and enjoy your wedding!
Post # 6
I love your dress. I really like it and I think you look great.
I also think you could get away with ordering a few sparkles like a rhinestone studded belt to give it some pizzazz .
That being said, I’m now one of the millions of Brides that are trying to sell my current dress online. If you really hate your dress, I’d start looking at Craigslist and wedding bee classified stat. You may be able to lowball a few offers and pick up a dress much more to your liking for cheap (like $100 cheap).
You could also see if there is a jcredit or david’s bridal near you. Both specialize in ready to wear bridal styles. You could buy a new dress.
Post # 7
We’re our own worst critics. I normally skip these sorts of threads but I have to say you look absolutely gorgeous in that dress. It fits perfectly and your curves look amazing, the ruching is super flattering.
Post # 8
iscnrr1331 : okay first of all most of us have body issues no matter how much weight we loose. I recently lost 53 pounds and still see areas I don’t like even though I’m below my high school weight for the first time since I graduated (and it’s been 12 years).
Secondly that dress is bangin and you body looks killer. I do see the bit of “back fat” you claim although I would argue that it is just excess skin BC the dress is very snug. And I only see it BC you pointed it out. With the veil I don’t see it at all.
Do you have a shrug or jacket you will be wearing to stay warm? That would cover the areas you are still feeling insecure about.
Post # 9
I’m not one to tell someone they look good in something in here unless I really think so… and you look exquisite. I know it’s important that you love your dress and I’m sorry you feel like you don’t …but honestly the things you’re saying about yourself I do not see.
Post # 10
iscnrr1331 : You look beautiful, that dress looks PERFECT on you and def has that wow factor!
Post # 11
iscnrr1331 : YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL!!!! it hurts me to see a bride who isn’t confident about herself you are one of the most stunning brides i have seen!!!! But if you honestly feel this way about your gown please don’t wear it. You can go to a bridal shop and buy a gown off the rack for a lot less maybe they will give you a break if you explain and tell them how upset you are about your current dress they will do everything in their power to find the dress for you…. I feel for you bee when i got my gown i felt the same way as you i didn’t love it the store took it back and used it as a floor model and gave me a store credit! you need to contact your bridal store asap and be as sincere as you can be and i am sure they will be willing to swap a gown for you off their rack as long as you find something you adore and love and you still have time for immediate alterations if needed with new gown in the store DO NOT wait any longer…
Post # 12
Professional bridal consultant here. That dress looks incredible on you, and you looks very tiny. What you are seeing as “bulges” is honestly just skin, and those will be there regardless of what size you are because it is a strapless dress. Doesnt matter if you are a size 00 or a 20, everyone gets them. Stand up straight with your shoulders back, tummy in and tits out, and you’ll look like a million bucks.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
What do I do? – You rock that dress bc your body is seriously on point! You look absolutely stunning. And honestly if the issue you have is a negative body image (which is crazy, some people would kill for your figure) then it won’t matter what dress you choose. That seems to be the problem here. Not how you actually look in the dress but how you think you look.
Post # 14
I was expecting to scroll down and see an average looking dress, but i was wrong! You look amazing in it! It is gorgeous! You have a fabulous figure. The only reason you mention a tiny bit of back fat is because your dress is very snug. No one will care. You have a veil anyway so no one will even see it! Don’t stress and enjoy your day. You look perfect ☺
Post # 15
Man, I WISH I had your body. Seriously, it’s bangin’. Your dress accentuates everything perfectly and it is definitely wow. Be confident and you’ll look like a million bucks on your day. Promise.
FTR: I actually did have extra weight on my day (a Cushing’s Disease flare) and people still thought I looked good in my dress. You’ll rock it!