Post # 1
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Worker bee
So my sister is the Maid/Matron of Honor and I’m afraid she may not show up. We have out of town guests tomorrow and she is still not home or answering her phone calls. Just some background… she’s into drugs and usually stays with her drug dealing boyfriend. This is just a mess if she doesn’t show up. Who will I promote to maid of honor? And who will I ask to be a backup. It will be embarrassing to tell my backup the reason why I need her to be a backup, you know? Today is Wednesday and the wedding is on Saturday. I can order the same dress online, but it would have to be today. I’m just so embarrassed to explain to my friend why she would have to be a backup bridesmaid. Ugh! Someone help make me feel better about all this.
Post # 3
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Helper bee
Is there any reason you NEED to have a backup? Why not just roll with it if she doesn’t show up?
Post # 4
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Busy bee
I would not worry about having a backup bridesmaid. I’d move forward with whomever I have at this point and just celebrate. These days, there are uneven bridal parties. Do you have anyone else in the bridal party?
Post # 5
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Newbee
I agree with sironel – why must you have a backup?Is it a color scheme thing, or the ratio with groomsmen? Titles are so useless IMO. If that’s all you’re worried about, relax. It’s one of those things that nobody cares about as much as you do. 🙂
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
Dittoing everyone else. No need for a back up, just roll with the punches on the day of.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
I agree with the previous posters that you don’t need to have even sides and don’t need a backup. If you have at least one other bridesmaid then you’ll have someone to hold your bouqet and help you all the necessary day of type things.
-Good Luck and I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this so close to the wedding!
Post # 8
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Worker bee
I was thinking because of ratio between groomsmen/bridesmaids for pictures.
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
Just have your Maid/Matron of Honor rock out with 2 groomsmen for photos 🙂
Your photographer should be familiar with uneven wedding parties – maybe just give them a heads up that you might be short a bridesmaid and are concerned about pictures. They can probably assuage your fears.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
@passionfruit23: I would say if you are concerned about pics being even and such that you ask one of guestbook attendants or readers to be a switch hitter that day. She will alreayd be there and planning for the rehersal and that way you are not dragging someone in completly last minute.
Post # 11
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Helper bee
a drugged out MOH?!! that sounds like distaster!
anyways, do not worry about uneveness in pictures and dont worry about throwing some random girl in your bridal party. You will only have a few pictures that show how many people are in your bridal party anyways, and no one will notice or care.
your wedding is in only a few days!! start getting excited and stop worrying about this stuff, you have other things to worry about im sure!
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