(Closed) Wedding is almost here and no one is coming

posted 5 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Ugh that really sucks…  I’m so sorry.  How hurtful they can’t even tell you straight up they’re not coming.  Slight (itty bitty tiny) silver lining is that this is going to be an AMAZING party for the group you do have.  All the people missing out are going to be so jealous.  I know that doesn’t make up for it though.  Hugs.

Post # 3
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524 posts
Busy bee

Oh man does that suck!!! Sorry bee! Is it too late to book another venue or change it up? I’d say F-it and go baller with the guests who came out! Take the girls out to spa mani pedis, the guys for a clean shave, steak restaurant, hit up a lounge after for drinks in a party bus! 

It doesn’t Matter that you moved. Everyone had said they’d come and ignoring your messages is just straight up rude!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I’m so sorry people bailed on you. More than that, to not even RSVP is so rude. 

I hope your small affair is lovely and so extravagant. 

Post # 6
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141 posts
Blushing bee

I think your wedding sounds awesome! Smaller groups are often more fun in my opinion. You will have a beautiful and fun wedding and look back on the day and be happy that you did it this way 🙂 

Congratulations!!

Post # 7
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450 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Are there other people you could invite from your town that you haven’t invited yet? Like co-workers or new friends you recently met? If I had just recently met someone, I wouldn’t be offended being invited so late.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think you have every right to be pissed, and I don’t think it’s your fault at all.  If they can’t come they can’t come, but they shouldn’t have told you they could, and they certainly shouldn’t ghost you over it.  You don’t treat your own son like a bad tinder date.

And please don’t be embarrassed, nobody will judge you for how many people show up at your wedding, they’ll just see how spectacular it is and how in love you two are 🙂

Post # 10
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26 posts
Newbee

I’m worried I’m going to be in the same boat. We’re having a destination wedding and my extended family is almost surely not coming, not even my dad is coming (but that’s a whole other story). Fiancé’s extended family on mom’s side isn’t coming and probably most of his dad’s side isn’t either. I think a fair amount of friends we invited can’t come. We never intended on it being a big wedding but it does start to suck when you realize it’s going to be too small. Our “engagement party” thrown by my family was like that. There was a tropical storm that weekend that messed up travel plans but boy was it a sad showing. Your post totally speaks to me.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

That is so rude! But at least you get to really treat all the people that are coming! 

For the minimum spend you need to reach, could your venue do a welcome signature cocktail on arrival? 

When things like this happen, I find that it really helps to focus on all the wonderful, amazing people that are coming, and how you’ll get to really enjoy your day with them. 

 

Post # 12
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205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Yeah, I’d say totally go all out with those who are coming. And maybe invite a few extras. Just explain the situation. I think most people won’t find it rude (altough some may- you can’t please everyone).

For my wedding none of DH’s extended family came either, and they didn’t have far to travel at all. I was quite upset about it but in the end it didn’t matter at all. 

Post # 13
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128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

To help reach your minimum, I would order yourself a few extra meals and just have the caterer wrap them up, bring them home for yourself and new DH, freeze and eat them when you want. Saves you a few days of cooking and you already know you’ll enjoy the food!

 

Post # 14
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1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I am very sorry this is happening. Sweetie, you learn who is in your corner and who is not during wedding planning. I had 2 people ask, yes ASK for an invitation, even though I had expressed that it would be small and they never responded to the RSPV! People are so inconsiderate. My one cousin I hit up and she said she was going and then did not show. What was I going to do, slap her around if she said she was not attending?! It was annoying because there were a couple of people that would have liked to attend, and even said so after they saw wedding pics! It was totally fine in the end. I knew things would not go perfectly, so I was able to handle it all with grace and dignity. I was smiling from ear to ear in between crying tears of joy despite whatever did not go as planned!!! *For those who did not go, it showed me where they stood with me, and I am glad.*

The people who are supposed to be there, will be. Everything happens for a reason. As long as all the vendors come you will be fine. As long as the officiant is there, you can get married which is all that matters. You will have a lovely day regardless. Do not let this steal your happiness and excitement. *Totally invite additional local folks, while it is short notice most people will understand; it is free food and drink and your not asking for gifts. You can buy extra food to take home, but since people said they were coming you may already have food leftover that you will take home. Ask the venue what else you can add.*

Post # 15
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4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

That stinks, but I’m sure it will be a lovely occasion with the people that do attend. 

We knew we’d be in the same situation if we had a tradional wedding. We don’t live near our families and our families don’t live near each other plus most of them are poor and can’t afford travel. We ended up just having a ceremony with our parents and two of DH’s siblings. Later, we went to my home state and had a small potluck celebration with my grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. It was still special and we’re still just as married, so mission accomplished.

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