Post # 17
I feel you, OP! My weight drives me crazy on a daily basis. I found myself dreading the wedding because of it. It’s so sad!
Here is my advice- I managed to lose 10 pounds in about a month. I cut back on the alcohol (did not eliminate it entirely, just tried to limit it to the weekends) and ate 1200-1400 calories a day tracking on spark people.com.
My sister lost a great deal of weight leading right up to her wedding by eating mainly strawberries, apples, oranges, fat free yogurt, fat free cottage cheese, low sodium/calorie soups, salmon, and tons and tons of broccoli and spinach.
I think that you will look wonderful no matter what happens, but I do feel your pain. Best of luck and I hope on your wedding day that you only think about your wonderful new life with your new hubby!!!!
Post # 18
I do have to admit I get sad when I see these kinds of posts. We are definitely our own worst enemies and critics. We got married last month and I was not at the weight I would have liked to be. My hair wasn’t exactly what our trial looked like, but I felt like the most beautiful woman in the world. You CAN lose a little weight in a month and maybe focus on the things you can really change, improve quickly. Get a mani/pedi. Get a good haircut/color. Take good care of your skin. Drink water. And that day don’t worry about the imperfections. You will be the BRIDE and therefore the most beautiful woman in the room!
Post # 19
Wow…thank you so much everyone for your kind and encouraging posts, and advice…I’m a really quiet person so I don’t really share my feelings with most people, so it really has helped for me to share with you guys and have other real people who understand what it’s like to be there…
I do want to work on eating healthier (unfortunately I am a stress-eater and crave sweets when I am stressed out which is obviously soooo difficult right now) so I will really try to cut my sugar and carbs and focus on lean proteins and veggies with some fruits. Both and Fiance and I still live with our parents, and my mom makes healthy dinners but I think the real problem is my fiance’s mom makes really fattening Southern style foods and I eat over there once or twice a week, and she ALWAYS has candy and chocolate out.
I had a mini-breakdown last night where I just couldn’t stop crying because of all the stress over the dress, the wedding and a house that my fiance and I are renovating (which is no where near finished) and both of our parents’ inputs on everything! I know they’re just trying to help but it gets so hard to listen to the same thing overand over. I just feel exhausted mentally and physically…I just don’t know what to do because if I try to relax or go somewhere (other than to work on the house), my parents are like “don’t you need to be working on something for the wedding?” and I’m like “I really need to rest/get out for a little while” and they say “You don’t have time to do that until AFTER the wedding!”
And then one of my (married) coworkers casually mentioned this morning that even if I think it’s a lot of work before the wedding, it will be a lot of work afterward too unpacking, setting up the house how we want it, etc. Ughhh that is definitely something I did NOT need to hear today!
I just feel like screaming it’s so crazy! I wish I could go back and have the teeniest wedding possible with just immediate family so I won’t have to worry so much about what I look like…but then there will always be pictures… 🙁 !!!!!!!!
Post # 20
I’m a stress eater too. I wish I was a person who didn’t eat when they were stressed! You’ll get through it. Lay down and take a breather. It’s tough, but a few breathing exercises can go a long way.
Post # 21
I am sorry to hear that you are feeling sad almost right before the wedding. You don’t want to remember your wedding as a time when you were depressed and uncomfortable. I am personally the kind of person who stops eating when stressed. So I was pretty skinny before I met my fiance 🙂 For the year I have been with him I jumped up 2 sizes 🙂 And OMG – I got cellulite! I am ok with being little more curvy than I was, but cellulite is unforgivable. I bought such a beautiful swim suit, which I will be embarrased to wear.
My only solution is to work on yourself and try to eat less. And this is what I am gonna do. To say honestly it is going to be difficult to not eat my favorite big mac, and my favorite hot chicken wings…But I cooked a very tasty vegetable meal yesterday. I decided to stop eating beef and pork, but just ocasionally have chicken and veal. So that means I am gonna eat mushrooms and fish as a substitute of meat. I ate a salad for lunch instead of big mac menu. Try eating less portions…I actually didn’t feel the difference between eating a big portion and a small one, I felt pretty full either time.
Well I bought this cellulite cream, that I use for 2 month already. And an abs belt, which I used twice so far 🙂
Try doing something, like cooking healthy meals, eating less, sport. The least it can do to you is to keep your thoughts off your body and how bad you feel 🙂
Post # 22
@Miss_Lily: I’m so sorry that you’re feeling this way.
How about walking or jogging regularly before the wedding. You still have about a month and it really could help you get into your dress.
Not sure where you are but we all gain a bit of weight over the winter. Don’t let it bring you down, I’m sure you’re going to look beautiful on your wedding but we all want you to feel beautiful.
Post # 23
I’m a stress eater also. I even made a post about it a while back! I feel like you and are share similar weight stress because I was feeling the exact same way a couple of weeks ago. I took a couple of steps to make sure I was putting myself on the right track. I’m now a couple weeks out and I can tell you I feel 100% better 🙂
First off I started using “My Fitness Pal” http://www.myfitnesspal.com/ It’s free and it really helps you to put your food intake into perspective. It has taught me what foods are surprisingly healthier to have than others. Getting this knowledge and tracking my eating has really started to help me feel better. I know that it’s unavoidable to have a snack when I’m stressing so instead of depriving myself I have stocked up on items that I still enjoy, but that are healthier (Like berries, or low fat yogurt).
Also, I started to walk or do some type of physical activity at least 3 nights a week. Meeting this goal alone has really helped to boost my confidence. You don’t have to take extremes, but if you start to make these subtle changes you can take control of your weight and that is a major confidence boost all in it’s own. Doing these things has helped me to loose 10 pounds in 2 1/2 weeks and although I’m not at my goal weight I am on the right track and I feel so much better about myself.
Try setting an attainable goal for yourself that you can accomplish in 30 days. Meeting that easy goal will change your whole perspective and make you feel so much better for your wedding day. Stay positive. Your man will always love you no matter your size, so do this for you 🙂 Good luck! I hope you start feeling better about yourself soon. It will be so worth it to make sure you are happy on that special day 🙂
P.S. My dress won’t zip either, but now after 2 1/2 weeks it does!!!! Major plus 🙂 You can do it!
Post # 24
I totally know where you are coming from! Mine is in 60 and my families the same way.
My Fiance says very sweet things and thats what makes everything feel MUCH better. If you keep focusing on why he’s marrying you and why you are marrying him. It’ll be soo much better, believe me. I’ve gained 15pds. At times I’m freaking out how I can loose this in 60 days. The other bees are so right. Eat healthy and feeling the love your Fiance has in those sadder moments and come your wedding day. Your worries will go away and you’ll shine.
Post # 25
Aw, I’m so sorry. Every bride should feel beautiful on her day! I would just suggest doing a couple things that I know help lose weight fast: drink at least a gallon of water a day, drink lots of green tea every day, and lower consumption of dairy. Even if you lost five pounds, I’m sure it’ll make you feel better 🙂
Post # 26
I totally understand where you are coming from. In high school I was about the same size as you and now I am the biggest I have ever been. I even ordered my dress a small sizer and since Jan 1 been eating healthy and exercising my dress STILL doesnt fit. I do not think they will be able to let it out either. One option I think might work is to make it a corset.
Also, I started a low carb/no carb diet but I am not following anything specfic. I just cut out bread, pasta, rice, fried food & tortillas (my biggest weakest). I never thought I could just do it. But today is my day 4 and I thought I would cheat and back out. I havent yet and I am very proud even if it has been 4 days. My fi is also doing it with me. I am hoping to last this way until May.
Please dont feel depressed it will only make things worst. As a size 18 gal I would love to be 14/16 now. Just know that Fiance loves you no matter what! He choose you so don’t worry about what other people think!
Post # 27
Deep breaths! The stress of it all is so overwhelming sometimes, it’s awful. When I get overstressed, I just shut down and do nothing. It is NOT easy. I also get overwhelmed when I am trying to count calories or ww points or anything like that. I do it, and I’ve done it, but when things get too stressfull it’s just plainly too much for me. You’ve got 30 days, which is not a ton of time but enough time to feel better. I agree with the poster about “clean” eating. It’s 30 days, and you can do it. Give yourself the freedom to eat what you want as long as it’s fruit, veggies, or lean protein. Big salads (no creamy dressings though), fresh fruit, roast up some veggies in the oven. It will fill you up! You can even add in one or two “carb” servings a day – like 1 slice of bread is one serving, or a 1/2 cup of rice. Cut out the sugar though. I’m a big sugar lover too so I know how hard it is. But just keep telling yourself that you only have to say “no” to the treats for 30 days. You will feel lighter and better, maybe lose some pounds, and will have more energy. Keep the faith girl! You can make it!
Post # 28
I agree with some of the earlier post. Don’t feel depressed- you’re getting married! This should be a happy time! I’m not a nutritionist, but I did go from a size 16 to a size 6 (though it took me over a year to do it- I did it the healthy way.) Here’s my advice: Don’t panic, don’t try a cleanse diet- they are terrible for your body. It will only increase your stress level, which I’m sure you don’t need at the moment.
If you can, get some extra activity- maybe an extra cardio or weight session once a week. Activity will actually increase your energy, believe it or not. It also helps fight depression, so if you’re feeling down, try taking a walk outside. If you drink soda, try switching to mostly water. And stay away from sugars as much as you can. Eat as much as you need in terms of veggies, protein, a reasonable amount of healthy carbs but cut back your sugar consumption to less than 15 grams a day.
Or don’t take anyone’s advice. No matter what, it sounds like you have a wonderful husband to be who loves you for who you are. That is what matters! No matter what, you’ll have a wonderful day and I’m sure you’ll be a beautiful bride.
Post # 29
I feel your pain! After Christmas, I saw pics of myself and I was so disgusted with myself. I kept thinking that Fiance would realize how much weight I had gained and he would decide he didn’t want to marry me. I was fed up with the way I felt and looked so I took matters into my own hands. I was a size 16 and weighed 206.9 lbs around Christmas. On Jan 3rd, I started the South Beach diet and lost 16 lbs in the first month! And I feel AMAZING! I’ve never felt this good.
I’ve been doing South Beach for 2.5 months and I have lost 24.3 lbs to date and fitting into clothes that I haven’t worn in years. I’m almost back to my high school weight and I’m SO happy.
I’m a complete advocate for the South Beach diet. I was a skeptic before and I’m sad that I didn’t start eating like this years ago. This is a lifestyle change for me.
I have NEVER felt this sexy! It’s awesome!
Post # 30
You said you are exhausted mentally and physically–I completely understand! I was feeling that way earlier this week and I know when I’m exhausted, my whole outlook on life is tainted. Then I had two nights in a row of making myself go to bed and slept 8 hours each night and today I feel WAY more optimistic and good. It sounds like your living situation is difficult, but I would encourage you try and tell everyone to go away so you can get your beauty rest. Yes, there is a lot to do, but you will do it more effectively if you are able to get your rest. If you lived closer to me, I’d let you use my apartment as a retreat so you could get away and get a nap. Do you have any friends with quiet homes where you could go for a night or so just to get some rest?
Everyone else has great advice regarding everything else–I’m taking mental notes for myself!
I bet you will feel better in 30 days and I have no doubt you will be a beautiful bride! I usually feel better after just a few days by making some of the tweaks some of the others have mentioned so you can totally do it in 30.
Hang in there!
Post # 31
@Miss_Lily: How are you feeling today? Any better?