(Closed) Wedding is in 30 days and not sure how it's gonna be paid for…

posted 6 years ago in October 2012
Post # 3
831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

How much cash do you have right now (not including the commission may/may not receive in time)? And how much do you owe?

All together.


Post # 5
857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think now is the time to sit down with your Fiance and figure out what you’re going to do. ASAP. Sounds like you can’t count on the money you’re owed coming in. Maybe Fiance needs to go have a talk with his groomsman and tell him how dire the situation is. If you dont see the money, you are going to have to push the date. 

Post # 6
77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This is where truth is stranger than fiction. You can rely on faith, and you can rely on money you don’t yet have – and you can ALSO find yourself being barrelled over by poor credit scores and vendors taking you to court for not getting them payment. (I’d pay the photographer first..LOL)

Can you possibly speak with as many vendors as possible and honestly explain complexity of the situation? My venue is a golf course and country club that is literally 4x more expensive than what I’m paying. I sat down and had a very honest conversation with the woman in charge and she was VERY accomodating and although the website quoted much higher prices, she was able to work with me to allow me to have the day I wanted without going broke. (my entire wedding is under 10k and it’s a VERY prestigious venue!)

As for the money you are “waiting” on. A hard lesson in life is to only count on money in your hand (which is funny because they say money in hand is money spent) but still. I “expected” a rather large commission over the summer and after they screwed up and processed benefits I find myself with NINE dollars. Lesson learned; don’t mentally spend the money before you get it.

Advice that I would normally NEVER utter but….If your credit is good consider opening a manageable line of credit or loan? I’m not a fan of this option but letting the bills go unpaid and having other legal action is a poor option as well! 

If you cannot fathom the thought of postponing the wedding then again you need to have an honest conversation with the vendors about your situation and see what you can work out. If you don’t work something out the stress could literally ruin your day anyway. 

Drink a glass of wine and get plenty of rest. I’ve always felt like a good nights sleep is the cure for most of my problems.



Post # 7
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would speak to your vendors ASAP to see if they can help you out. Since the wedding is still a month away, your caterer might be able to change your menu and use cheaper items. They probably haven’t bought any of the ingredients yet so it wouldn’t cost them much, if anything, to do this. Can you cut back on other items like alcohol or decorations? Are there any vendors that you can get rid of without sacrificing too much? You may lose your deposits, but you won’t have to pay the full cost of the services.

Lastly, you could try talking to your broker and explain your situation. You could suggest that you get the full commission for this sale and your broker gets all of the commissions for the next two sales. Or some similar arrangement.

I’m sorry you are in this position. I would be incredibly stressed out too.

Post # 8
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think it’s time to forget about a wedding and just elope or have a very small affair.  If you can’t afford it 30 days out you can’t afford it. 

Post # 9
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It depends on what you are willing to sacrifice.  I know a lot of people want this fairytale ordeal with all this expensive decor, etc. but if it’s not in the budget then it’s not in the budget. 

I am getting married for $3,500.00, that doesnt’ include rings or my dress or any of the honeymoon (we are having a budget wedding so we can have a nice two week honeymoon in California.)

I am going to have a nice wedding, everyone is going to eat, we are having 100 people at the event.  It can be done, is it more important to have a big extravaganza or is it more important that you get married with family/friends present? I’ve seen beautiful weddings in a field (no joke) with just flowers and chairs… etc. 


I’m really sorry that you are having so many struggles though, I always thought wedding planning would be this great cloud nine experience, boy was I wrong.  Its nothing but a nightmare and a headache, I just want to be married.  If I had even the slightest chance to elope I would have. 


Post # 10
2777 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Just one question did you consider going to the courthouse and inviting FI’s parents and yours, when the Italian elopement fell through?  Is that an option now?  Just walking away from the money you put down and going to the courthouse?

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