(Closed) Wedding is in 4 weeks and grandma just put into hospice :(

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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sassybeee :  So sorry you’re going through this.

My Dad died suddenly 2 months before my wedding. It’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with. Dad was my rock. He was always there. Always fixing my problems. Always there when I called. If I had a question, he had the answer. It’s been so difficult navigating life without him.

About a month after his death, I was seriously depressed. Here I was, suppose to be having the time of my life leading up to the wedding and I was just trying to survive. I was running his business (still am), helping my Mom navigate legal and financial things, attending meetings with her and all the while I had this HUGE life event approaching. Oh, and I was still working my normal job in a different city. Tired doesn’t even begin to describe the month of May for me.

I had to pull myself out of my depression, so I forced myself to stop thinking about my wedding day as the first time my Dad wouldn’t be there for something in my life, and start focusing on the fact that I was about to marry Anthony. Anthony who has been so strong for me, and who I love so much. Once I shifted my focus, I began to pull myself out of my depression, at least enough to get through the next month in one piece.

It’s still a struggle every single day. I still cry almost daily. I think it’s been harder on me because I’m so deep into his business. I still have clients that I have to tell daily about my Dad’s death because he dealt with so many people. It’s exhausting. It has taken a tole on me.

Your Grandma would want you to enjoy your day. It will be hard to not have her there. But she wouldn’t want you to be sad on that day. She’ll be there with you in spirit. I know my Dad was.

 

Post # 17
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Busy bee

I’m so sorry to hear this. Sending you all my good thoughts and wishes. 

It will be hard, but please remember that your grandmother would want you to be the happiest you can be on your special day. 

Hugs

Post # 18
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Busy bee

Im so sorry for your loss Bee.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I am so sorry to hear this, Bee. Although it doesn’t take away the pain, I hope you feel a bit of comfort thinking about what a blessing it was (and is) to have such a close relationship with both sets of grandparents. Those memories are forever and nothing can take that away.

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Busy bee

 

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sassybeee :  I’m sorry to hear about your grandmother… I know how you feel my grandma died last month and then my Aunt died last week… It’s really rough… Taking them off the guest list was heart breaking… I feel guilty for worrying about wedding stuff when my Uncle has lost his mother and his wife in such a short period… This is litterly the best and worst year of my life.

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