Post # 1
the best man still hasn’t gotten fitted for his suit. At what point do I say something? I don’t like him and he doesn’t like me (this is the same best man/cousin that I previously wrote about that spread rumors about me among the family) but if he doesn’t match the other two groomsmen, I will be directing the photographers to take “less” pictures of him.
For what it is worth, it costs $20 to get fitted at the Men’s Warehouse. This same guy no-showed to my FSIL’s wedding a few months ago.
Post # 3
You need to have your Fiance talk to him right away. This is unacceptable behavior for a best man
Post # 4
@PinkAndPearls2013: I should have mentioned. My fiancé has talked to him twice or three times already. Especially since Men’s Warehouse called him on two separate occassionally to let my fiancé know who wasn’t fitted.
Post # 5
@armychica06: have you fi talk to him or take him there directly. is there a financial situation that is perhaps holding him back? either way, let him know that if he doesn’t get fitted by tuesday, he’s out.
Post # 6
Maybe it’s time to be dramatic. Tell him if he doesn’t go right away then he will not be in the wedding. If he cares about his relationship with your Fiance then it should be important enough to get done. Otherwise, maybe ask another groomsmen that is more responsible to step in as best man. He is not being a very good best man or cousin for that matter if he is acting so childish as to not get fitted because he knows how much it is aggravating you (which I’m assuming is the situation).
Post # 7
I’d be talking to my Fiance and asking him what we’re going to do about this, as in, at what point will he (your FI) ask him to bow out. Conversely, Fiance could tell him that if he doesn’t have the suit by the day before, to not bother coming to the rehearsal.
To me, it’s not about what he wears for the wedding (i.e. if he looks different). It’s about the fact he clearly cares so little that he won’t spare an hour to get this done, never mind leaving you both hanging the week before the wedding.
Sorry you’re going through that. I imagine the week before the wedding is stressful enough without having to deal with BS from someone who is supposed to be there to support you.
Post # 8
@mypinkshoes: my fiancé just got a new job and relocated to Philly so taking him isn’t an option.
I just mentioned it to my fiancé again. MW said the “last” day to order is Tuesday and they won’t be able to guarantee the suit until day of wedding…. But the wedding is a morning wedding so he may not have a suit at all in time. My fiancé won’t kick this guy out (and I personally don’t want him to as he would probably blame me) but I have been trying to show my fiancé how selfish people, even family members, can be. My fiancé is diehard for his blood but some people aren’t worth it.
Post # 9
Today. One of my husband’s GMs waited until a week out and finally went after a threat that if he didn’t have the tux, he wouldn’t be in the wedding. Good luck!