Post # 1
I dont know how I am going to get through the next month or so. I am filled with anxiety and worry. Not about the marriage, but about the actual wedding. I am worried about family drama, about things not going as planned, about everything. I woke up in a panic around 3am this morning thinking about which songs we still need to decide on. I’m just a total mess.
Married bees-how did you get through it at the end? It’s been almost a year and a half of planning and I am running out of steam.
Post # 3
@Bostongrl25: Not a married bee but I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. If you can, try and do something fun or something for yourself to give yourself time away from the wedding planning. At this point I’m sure you’ve got the big items taken care of, so don’t sweat the details! You’ll be okay. 🙂
Post # 4
I know the feeling girl. We’re almost there. xoxo
Post # 5
I’m 8 weeks away and I feel the exact same way. I’m losing steam fast and I just can’t wait for it to be here so I don’t have to worry about this stuff anymore!
Post # 6
Haha oh man I feel the same way! Our wedding is less than three weeks away and I keep freaking out that it wont be as pretty as the pintrest weddings! You put so much time and energy into one day and just want to to go smoothly, its a lot of pressure!
Post # 7
Thanks ladies. Glad to know I’m not alone.
We do have the big things done, but now it’s final meetings with our vendors and all the small details…like seating charts, out of town bags, etc. I just feel exhausted and like my chest is going to explode from anxiety.
Post # 8
I feel exactly the same way!!
in the last month. .
FI’s aunt planned a bday party for the day after our wedding. Great, now I have to worry about guests leaving early.
The MI/MI State game is on our wedding day. If it’s at night I’ve gotta get a TV in there so we don’t lose people to the lounge
and Friday my stylist flaked out on me and isn’t doing my hair for the wedding.
Post # 9
i cannot wait for my wedding to get here, but that part i am not looking forward to! whenever i get stressed about the minor details of something, i try and take a step back and look at the big picture. focus on the end result – you will be married to FI!
one of my friends sat down and made a list of everything that could possibly go wrong at her wedding and even though none of that stuff did happen, she said that it made her feel better, like she was emotionally prepared for it all… i am not sure that would do anything but send me into a stress coma, but it worked for her!
Post # 10
I only have 4 more days and I haven’t been getting any sleep for the past couple of weeks… I think it’s msotly due to my back though so I’m getting a massage in hopes that it will help.
Good luck!! I hope you’re able to get some sleep!!
Post # 11
sent you a PM 🙂
oh boy i think writing it out might make me literally lose my mind! Youre right though, I do need to take a step back. it’s just so hard with all the last minute things that need to be done.
good luck! few more days and you can relax and enjoy married life 🙂
Post # 12
What you’re feeling is normal, we all feel anxiety at times. And a wedding is one of the most stressful events anyone will ever have. (Even though it’s in a good way).
An anxiety-relieving trick I learned a couple of years ago – for example, you’re in bed and can’t sleep. Either you’re tossing and turning in the middle of the night or you’ve woken early with the same old thoughts/fears running through your mind. OK. Now. Put yourself there.
Focus. Feel your breath going in and out. Do nothing. Don’t try to think anything or force yourself not to think anything. Just feel how your body feels at that moment. Are you lying in bed? Reassure yourself that nothing can hurt you just for this one minute. Nothing can hurt you, you’re safe in bed. Now…. feel your breath in and out again … feel the warmth of the bed beneath you, feel the softness of the blanket or sheet. Do this for a minute. Then another minute more. Revel in the quietness of the room, the soft shadows. Feel what feels so good about lying in bed. The mattress pressing back against you.
This can be done anywhere, even when driving – focus on the sunlight or the way the wheel feels under your fingers. Just BE in the moment, for a moment.
Even if it gives you five minutes of relief, that’s something. The more you practice this the more it works, too. 🙂
Post # 13
I feel the same way. Lately I’ve been so anxious that I can’t wind down at night.
@Bostongrl25: Can you give yourself permission to take a mini break from planning, even if it’s just for the rest of the day? I just decided I’m not doing anything wedding-related after work, and I feel relieved already.
Post # 14
I will for sure try that-thank you!!
We actually had a mini break this past weekend as we were out of town for a family party. Of course, all everyone wanted to talk about was the wedding!
Post # 15
There’s always the option of medication, too. My sister-in-law was super anxious starting about 2 months before the wedding, and ended up getting prescribed muscle relaxants. She just popped one about an hour before bed and was able to sleep through the night.
If I wasn’t able to sleep I’d definitely consider that…being well-rested for the wedding is one of my top priorities!
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Yoga, and lots of it! I made sure to eat breakfast every day, and no skipping meals!
Target makes a great ibuprofen pm product- I take just one, and it usually helps me get the edge off. During the tail end of wedding stuff, I had a notebook by the bed. If I woke up at 3am with a big to-do list in my head, I just wrote it all down.