- 4 years ago
Let me preface it by saying that in NO way do I think the wedding is all about me or that I’m bridezilla. In fact, I’ve been pretty laid back about everything. I’m getting married in two months and I’m just not excited or feeling like a bride. its so unlike me to just not care about loosing weight, but I can see, to get the motivation to do it and my first dress fitting is in 2 days! Maybe these are the reasons…
1). Neither of our families are really involved in the planning process. Fiances dad is estranged. His brother refuses to come to the wedding because I’m not catholic and his mom lives in another state.
2). My parents don’t seem to care either. They never ask about the planning, they plan on getting here from out of town the day Before The wedding, cutting it close to the rehersal. My brother is in another state and not even sure if be will make it.
3). My fiancé seems completely uninterested as well. I tried to compromise on a mid sized wedding (he wanted small, I had too many people I felt I needed to invite), but yet he’s not interested in really any of it, or even hearing of it and doesn’t want to chat about it. I know he loves me, but it hurts that he’s not invested in the wedding at all
4). My bridesmaids haven’t really been interested in doing much either. 2 of the 5 have offered to help with things but the other 3 don’t really seem to care. I know that of course it’s not required of them to be excited or wanting to help, I just thought it would be a bonding experience as it was in all the weddings I was a bridesmaid In.
4). I was engaged before and planned a huge wedding. Two months before, I was diagnosed with a chronic illness and my ex left me. So I know my family has “been through it before” as far as wedding planning. But it’s not as if I was actually married before!
i guess I just thought this would be a more celebratory time. After all, my fiancé and I are 34, we’ve waited a long time to get here. It’s hard to be excited when you feel like you’re planning something and you wonder if not only doez anyone care, but will anyone come?!
any advice, suggestions? Thanks!