(Closed) Wedding is most likely off..

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@crh1729: I’m sorry to hear that! Can you tell us what happened?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

You never know! My husband and I have had some pretty ugly arguments in the past.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@crh1729: Ugh I’m so sorry! But like PP said you never know! I’ve had some pretty bad fights with Fiance but we ultimately worked them out and are better then ever. I’m so sorry! 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh my goodness I am so sorry! 🙁

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@crh1729: Gosh I hate fights like that 🙁  I’ve totally been there – you start on one topic and end up with the regular old resentments that come up again and again.  I don’t think i can offer you any advice on the specifics of the fight cause they aren’t issues that my fiance and i deal with.  But i will say there is alot to be said for spending a little while apart and considering how this fight fits into your relationship as a whole. DOn’t let one fight dictate whether you stay together or break up, but also don’t ignore one fight if its one of many and the issues are never getting resolved.

I’ve had some doozies with Fiance and we’re still together and going pretty strong (despite my valentines day disapointments)….

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh no, I’m so sorry. Maybe you both just need some time to cool off. Good luck and I truly hope everything works out!

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

We have had some doozer fights in the past and we worked through them. I think that you should both look at this as an opportunity to learn to work through some of the hard times. When/If you get married, you won’t be able to walk away that easily, so if you both love each other, I think you should try to work it out. In my opinion, taking a break, shouldn’t be an option, if you plan to spend the rest of your lives with each other.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

So sorry you are dealing with this.  Have you guys ever tried counseling?  I think if you have the love there, and the desire there, you just need to learn to fight fair and productively.  Sleep on it.  See what happens.  Best wishes.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Money can send any fight into flames! I’m sorry you are dealing with that on Valentines day, or at all in that case! Just take some time and really think things over before you jump to any conclusions. My Fiance and I had a HUGE HUGE fight a year or so ago and were on a break and we worked through it. I hope you can also! I wish you two the best.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Most fights aren’t really about what you’re fighting about. Try to figure out the meaning underneath the fight. We recently got into a fight about our new kitten and how he disciplines (or doesn’t discipline) him. I was mad becase he lets the cat up on the counters, because “he looks so cute”. But what the fight was *really* about was I had this huge OMG, He’s never going to say No to our children (we aren’t even ttc yet!), I will always be the bad guy and they will turn into drug addicts, whores and murders.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

@crh1729:  I hope that you two can get counseling and figure out how to work things out.

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