Post # 1
The first photo is my engagement ring which is my fiances great grandmothers stone.
The center is round (almost 1 CT) with two side princess cuts. The middle ring is MY grandmothers ring. To be completely honest it was the ring I had always wanted as my engagement ring because I was really really close to my grandmother. This tears my heart in two. My love for what my fiance picked out and put his heart in soul into means the world to me. I cherish that ring. Another part of me truly longs for my own grandmothers ring. I feel awful just letting it sit there. I do not want to turn it into a necklace or anything else. The last picture show my grandmother and great grandmothers wedding bands.
Now the BIG problem is— can I wear my grandmothers engagement ring on my wedding day? Can I wear it on my right hand? Should I possilby only wear the wedding bands? I really really love that ring! I of course would NEVER want to hurt my fiance. Can anyone think of a way that I could do this without hurting anyone?
Any help would be appreciated greatly!!!
Thank you thank you!!!!!
Post # 3
Wear your grandmother’s ring on your right hand, like you said, and the ring your Fiance gave you on your left.
Are you going to use your grandmothers’ wedding bands as your own? Or do you have a different one? If you’re getting your own wedding band, I think it’s fine to wear the other ones on a different finger.
Post # 4
Thank you so much for your response! I do have my own wedding band. Do you think it’s wrong to wear her engagement ring on my right hand? Not sure how I could do this on the wedding day- but I’d really like to. Where would I put my actual engagement ring during the ceremony if my grandmas ring is on my right hand??
Post # 5
Wear her ring proudly. You can wear any ring you want on ur right hand. Congrats and goodluck!!!
Post # 6
Do you think this will hurt my fiances feelings??? I am just nervous because my grandmothers ring is much bigger. I don’t want him to feel like I’m trying to compare the rings.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I would wear the ring Fiance gave you on your right hand, since you’re supposed to have your wedding band “closer to your heart.”
After you’re married, you can wear all of them- grandmother’s on your right hand, if you want. But for your wedding day- the ring Fiance gave you is more important than the one your grandmother gave you. If it’s really an issue for you, don’t wear any rings that day, except your new wedding band.
Post # 8
@ElleCG: Why don’t you talk to him about it? Explain the signifigance of your grandmother in your life, and that you want a part of her with you that day. You know him better than I do, but you’ve not said anything to indicate he would be hurt or sensitive about it. The engagement ring he proposed with is your engagement ring, but there is no law that says you can’t wear your grandmother’s on your right had for the wedding, and any other day.
As far as your ring on the day of, you have a few choices: 1) have him put the wedding band on over the engagement ring, thn switch later. 2) stealthily slip the engagement ring off your finger just before the ring part and either hold it, or slip it onto your pinky or the top of your middle finger. 3) have whomever will give him the wedding ring hold it, then have him place both rings on your finger during the ring exchange. 4) tie it to the bouquet with a ribbon so you have it during the ceremony, but it’s not on your finger. Then right after the ceremony, place it on your finger.
My right fingers are much bigger than my left (about 1/2 to a full size bigger). I can’t get my engagement ring over the knuckle of my right ring finger. I’m leaning toward 1 or 2 myself.
Post # 9
You should definitely wear her ring on your right hand – it’s beautiful and it means alot to you! It could be your “something old” or “something borrowed.”
Post # 10
I say wear whatever ring makes you happiest in whatever way you want! I would definitely explain everything to your fiance. I don’t know if he will be hurt or not, but honesty is always the best policy. Plus it’s a gorgeous ring that shouldn’t spend the rest of its existence locked away in a jewelry box. Speaking of which, could you share larger photos of your rings? I love vintage rings and would love to get a better look at them! 🙂
Post # 11
Welcome to Weddingbee! 😀
As PPs said, you should do what makes you happiest. There is nothing stopping you wearing it on your right hand. You can just slip your band on together with your engagement ring on your left hand? I definitely plan on wearing mine together, and as a PP said, sometimes the engagement ring doesn’t even fit on brides’ right hands! The band and your e-ring will also stand out more than they’re together, so I don’t think they’ll easily be overshadowed by the other ring. And anyone who knows you well will know and appreciate the significance your grandmother’s ring has to you. Anyone who doesn’t will think you’re lucky to have TWO such beautiful rings.
Oh, and I second the request for larger photos!