Wedding is over and I'm sad about missed family photos

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
1870 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I was/am in this situation. Do you know if there are pictures of the guests at all?? I was upset there werent many of my grandparents but there were still a couple for me to keep.

Post # 5
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You can totally blame the photographer. You paid her and gave her explicit instructions. She did not come through with your agreement. I would contact her and ask for a discount, some free prints or something to account for her error, and to compensate for the lost time due to her leaving early.


If she does not compensate you, then you write bad reviews on Weddingwire and other bridal websites.






Post # 6
406 posts
Helper bee

Was there a good reason for her early departure? 

Post # 7
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Jbbee:  I agree with this. I completely relied on my photographer to remember the list of photos I had given her, and she did. There is no way I could have kept track of all of my “must have” portraits during the wedding. 

Can you pay someone to create these photos for you using photoshop? Even if they aren’t “real” pictures, it might still be nice to have some photos with those guests in your wedding gown.

Post # 10
3041 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@spelunx: I wouldn’t worry about it yet, you don’t even have your photographer’s photos yet. Maybe she does have some of them as guests. Maybe she took them & you just forgot they were taken. Maybe they were completely missed, but don’t stress about it. You won’t know for about 8 weeks or so. Most contracts have a clause that say photographers can’t guarantee all requested photos. Photographers do their absolute best, but weddings are so fast & we don’t know who everyone is. And those lists are requests, not requirements. I’m sorry if those photos were missed, it sucks & I’m sure your photographer would have done it if the timing worked out. Even if you don’t have a photo, you will remember they were there.

What you CAN do is, if those guests are still there maybe hang out with them & be sure someone takes a photo of you together.

Also, how many hours did you have her booked & how many did she fulfil? Leaving early goes against the contract, unless the couple tells them its fine to leave. Even then I’ll always double check if they’re sure. The only time I’ve ever left early was when the bride & groom are leaving as well & told me to go!

Post # 11
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

I can definitely relate! I know in my case it’s totally my fault for not saying anything beforehand but I thought it was just assumed I would want a photo with the kids in my bridal party 🙁 it sucks, but like you said, hopefully you have guest photos of them… 

Post # 12
2117 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013


Im sorry to hear that:( Some photos were missed by my photographer too. Grandma was completly left out all together. And our niece was totally left out of all the pictures cuz she well just refused. I havent gotten all my photos back but Grandma also skipped out on reception cuz i guess it was too much for her. so not a single photo with her that day. 🙁 nothing made me feel better. i mean at least we got some with her while she visited.

Post # 14
498 posts
Helper bee

@spelunx:  I’m sorry the shots were missed. Can you check to see whether any guests took any pictures? Did the people you wanted pictures of take pictures of themselves that day? (sometimes people take pictures of themselves if they don’t dress up often etc). Can you request a deal because she didn’t take the shots? I know it sucks but with every event there is always something that goes wrong. it is hard not to dwell on it but please don’t because then it will ruin or change your memory of the event. Just think that something always goes wrong with events and it could have been much worse. Congrats on your marriage!

Post # 15
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Wait, what? You only asked for three specific shots and she missed all three of them? I’m pretty forgiving (after family pictures with names listed and one specific picture of mine and my grandma’s rings, I told our photographers to forget about the rest of the list and do whatever), but she left early AND missed the three shots that you specifically asked for? :

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