(Closed) Wedding is Terrible do not know what to do

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@angela.wilson.568632:  I’m sorry ((hugs)). We all want things to go perfectly for our weddings but sometimes difficulties get in the way. I wish it were not this way for you!

I was so miserable with wedding planning I canceled everything and eloped! 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo

elope!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It should be the best day of your life! if you don’t want a wedding, why have a wedding?

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Do you really want to elope, or are you going to go through with this wedding?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@angela.wilson.568632:  Well, let us know what you decide. If the decision is made to go on with the wedding, I am sure there are a ton of people on here who can help with ideas on how to make it all come together.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

If you want to elope, do it!!!  Good luck with your discussion tonight.  Let us know how it goes! 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

It sounds to me like you need to cancel all your contracts and elope. Have a fabulous elopement and enjoy every minute.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Situations like this is what elopements are for!  

I don’t have the kind of family who would insist on a big wedding, so I really don’t understand the mindset behind that.  But as a bride, I knew I didn’t want to plan anything that would leave me broke, disappointed, and crazy.  

The only people whose lives will really be affected are you and your fiance, so you should celebrate this the way you want to.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

Elope! Our invites have gone out already, otherwise we totally would! 🙂

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Definitely elope!! I am excited for my wedding but if I knew the stress it would cause, I would have def eloped!! Do not go through with something that you’re not comfortable with..Good luck 🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Do whatever makes you happy. The whole point is to get married and you don’t need a big fancy wedding and a lot of money to do that.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

@angela.wilson.568632:  Hang in there, honey. If you feel like eloping is the best choice for you, go for it! If you feel like you really would rather have a wedding, here are a few things that might help:

– despite what people say, don’t feel like your wedding has to be “the best day of your life.” It almost shouldn’t be, really, because how anticlimactic is that? After all, you don’t want to peak on Day One and have it all be downhill from there. Take some of the pressure off and, instead of aiming for utter perfection, aim for “a nice day and an enjoyable celebration.”

– decide on a few priorities, and then be unapologetic about not splurging on whatever isn’t a priority. It’s totally fine to have a nice dress and cut corners on the flowers or skip the limo and the fireworks and the ice sculptures and the dancing elephants, etc. When people question it, say, “that’s just not our priority.” Less is more, anyway – concentrate on enjoying the things you did prioritize and don’t worry about the rest.

– if your guest list is clogged with relatives who will be annoyed at a dry reception … make sure that they all know it’s going to be a dry reception and then see how many of them politely decline. Who knows – enough room might open up that you can have friends and co-workers there instead!

– this might end up being more complicated than you want, but it’s an idea: if the family really is annoyed at the no-alcohol reception, maybe you can invite them just to the ceremony and plan a family get-together to celebrate at a later time, in a place where they can have alcohol, but it wouldn’t be a “wedding” so you’d dodge the inflated price tag … and then you can invite the friends who are cool with a dry reception and have them at your party? Might not work, but I just thought I’d toss it out there.

– On a side note, I would recommend avoiding the bridal magazines, etc., like the plague. They’re basically a vehicle for advertisers to get you to compare yourself with some impossible ideal, whip up feelings of inadequacy and “keeping up with the Joneses” syndrome, and entice you to hemhorrage money. Leave the Joneses to do their thing, while you do your thing on your own terms.

Best of luck in whatever you decide, and I wish you an awesome marriage, no matter how you end up getting there!

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