(Closed) Wedding issues. I need advice please. Includes our dogs

posted 5 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@babylo0n:  

1st Problem – No I haven’t done that so no advice.

2nd Problem – I don’t think I would suggest removing her title over THAT.  I’ve seen far crazier stories.  What’s her problem?  I don’t trust people that don’t like dogs 🙂  Tell her that Best Man is going to walk both and she’ll have to walk alone 🙂

3rd Problem – Sounds like Future Father-In-Law needs to grow up.  But it’s FI’s family so I’d ask Fiance to work it out with them.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

  1. I’m only having 3 bridesmaids but I’m also having 2 bridesmen. Seven is a lot but it’s not unreasonable.
  2. You absolutely should not demote her over your dog! Seriously. People (especially somone you made your MOH) come before pets! Have somebody else walk the dog if it’s that important that they be included. But seriously think through the possibility of having to walk around dog shit on the way down the aisle in your white dress.
  3. Have your fiance tell everyone involved that if they come they are expected to behave themselves. And if your fiance’s uncle decides not to come that doesn’t necessarily mean that his other family members won’t come.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

1. – Asking your bridal party to pay for their own dresses and shoes is pretty standard, just take into consideration their budgets and timing when you select their attire.

2. – As a dog lover I get wanting your babies in the wedding, if I were your Maid/Matron of Honor, I would be reluctant to be walked down the aisle by a dog too.  Fact is, weddings and dogs, while a cute and charming idea on paper, are really not so compatable in reality.  Even the most well behaved of animals can become unpredictable and frightened in a new place, with lots of strangers, noise, excitement and someone who isn’t their owner walking them around….I wouldn’t be rethinking my Maid/Matron of Honor, but the Dogs of Honor concept instead.

3. – Remind both parties that they are adults and as such, they are expected to conduct themselves accordingly.  If either of these men is unable to attend an event that just happens to have a person they dislike in attendance, be grateful they kept that mess at home.

Either way, it’s all going to be ok, try not to let these tempestuous problems ruin what a fun and exciting time this is.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Is your Maid/Matron of Honor afraid of dogs?

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@babylo0n:   Could you switch it so she is walking the small dog?

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Which dog is she walking? I have a pit too, and as sweet as he is (registered therapy dog as well) some people just can’t get over the bad mentality of “all pits are evil” And refuse to even be in the same house as him. Maybe if you have a one on one with her and explain how important this is to you she may come arowants how much exposure has Maid/Matron of Honor had to your furbaby? Ask her to accompany you on walks with pup and gradually warm her up to the dog. I thought of having my fur babys as ring bearers but my venue won’t allow pets. That and our husky pup is waaaay to hyper in crowds to keep still for longer than 5 seconds. 

I would have your Fiance talk to his father and uncle seperately explaining how much thou want them both there but you would like them to behave on your special day. Doesn’t mean they have to like each other or even talk, just behave and not start anything. If they can’t put aside differences for one day out of respect to you and your Fiance then they don’t need to be there. 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@babylo0n:  I think you should go back and read what you just wrote before confronting your Maid/Matron of Honor. I am an animal lover but even I would be a little hesitant to walk my well behaved pooch in heels and a nice dress in front of a lot of people. I can understand why she might not want to walk someone else’s large dog in such a public setting. If you are still really set on this idea you could maybe suggest that she spend more time with the dog before the wedding so that the dog is used to being walked by her and even have her practice in heels or shoes like the ones she will be wearing. Some MOHs are able to put in that kind of time commitment others may not be able to though.

It does seem like you are asking a lot of someone who you are supposed to respect enough to make them your Maid/Matron of Honor. Are you sure that this one issue isn’t just an additional reason on top of other issues that are making you wish you had picked a different MOH? Cause a dog walking issue doesn’t really seem like it should be a deal breaker…

 

 

 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

What are you going to do with the dogs after the ceremony?  Who will watch them?

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