Post # 1
I am just now starting to receive my replies in the mail. I was VERY careful on verbiage and only addressed (other than family) to the direct married or single +1 invited. I am now receiving replies stating ie: Mr. & mrs. Tom Smith= 3 attending + lil Ashley Smith……..?
what to do?
Post # 3
Most people don’t invite children to their wedding, so it really irritates me when a few years later, they want to bring them.
Contact the offenders right away with either a phone call or an email, “we are so excited that you will be able to share our special day. however, this is an evening event so we only included adults in the invitation.” I have seen quite a few invitations where there was the notation “venue management politely requests no children”.
Post # 4
I would just call up to offending guest and politely tell them that while you would love to see little jonny and jill but that they are not invited to the wedding. If they push for whoever to come just tell them that due to your venue and event you will be unable to host that person. Best of luck!!!
Post # 5
Oh, great post, I haven’t even sent out invites yet, but I already know I’ll have that response with one of my good friends…i sent out STD and she responded-informally of coarse ‘yes weve decided to make it a family vacation/road trip-…can’t wait to see you!” originally she said it was JUST HER coming…now 3 more people?!we’re on a SUPER tight budget…at 30 bucks a kid-no way we’re already inviting 20 over our budget…
Post # 6
To me this depends on whether people are local or out of town. For locals it’s no problem for them to get a babysitter, and it would be okay to ask them to leave the kids at home. They’ll probably enjoy the evening more anyway. For out of towners I don’t know what you expect them to do with their kids. You can’t leave a kid younger than 15 home alone for the weekend. If you bring them, it’s hard and sketchy to get a babysitter in a strange town. We have tons of out of town guests with kids so we’re just arranging for a babysitter at the wedding.
Krispy – if you invited your friend and her husband (and it’s really not polite to not invite her husband if you were thinking he’d stay home with the kids) from out of town and you really don’t want them to bring their kids I would talk to some local friends with kids about who they use for babysitting and suggest that person to your friends.
Post # 7
thanks all. Each response card will be placed aside that did not follow instructions. I am going to have my mom call these people. emotionally, this is just too much. I am hurt by this and quite simply dumbfounded. These are all local guests. Other than that mine/his Cousins, sisters, brothers & in laws will be having their children attend- of course. 🙂
It amazes me how all of a sudden people are forgetting, what is going on in the world right now. And what is so wrong with a romantic date with your spouse , kid free? I have one, and would love to attend a wedding in the future with my Fiance (without) my son. After all after God, this is my 2nd most important relationship. that is just how I feel…….So on top of my dress situation & this, I will have lots of funny stories to tell. I must say, I completely understand why people elope. I have never spent so much time dramatizing the fear of hurting someone’s feelings each day. and to boot, this is just under a year long engagement. ha! no wonder I didn’t need to exercise to loose weight. This is stressful.
Cant please everyone though right? 🙂
Post # 8
@missguenst: Whoa, take a deep breath! There is no reason to stress out about this! Try to remember that in the grand scheme of things this is not a big deal! Your invites were clear and hopefully people can be understanding. FI’s cousin sent us a very preachy note when they realized their kids weren’t invited, but I really just had to laugh it off. There is no point stressing about this. It will all work out!
Post # 9
only shocked at first and venting,,,thanks. All is okay 🙂
I have gotten many more in today,,,,and yup,,,,,I laughed ha! 🙂