(Closed) Wedding ivite for mom/dad but RSVP includes children….

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Most people don’t invite children to their wedding, so it really irritates me when a few years later, they want to bring them.

Contact the offenders right away with either a phone call or an email, “we are so excited that you will be able to share our special day.  however, this is an evening event so we only included adults in the invitation.”  I have seen quite a few invitations where there was the notation “venue management politely requests no children”.

Post # 4
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611 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would just call up to offending guest and politely tell them that while you would love to see little jonny and jill but that they are not invited to the wedding.  If they push for whoever to come just tell them that due to your venue and event you will be unable to host that person.  Best of luck!!!

Post # 5
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179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh, great post, I haven’t even sent out invites yet, but I already know I’ll have that response with one of my good friends…i sent out STD and she responded-informally of coarse ‘yes weve decided to make it a family vacation/road trip-…can’t wait to see you!”  originally she said it was JUST HER coming…now 3 more people?!we’re on a SUPER tight budget…at 30 bucks a kid-no way we’re already inviting 20 over our budget…

Post # 6
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1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

To me this depends on whether people are local or out of town. For locals it’s no problem for them to get a babysitter, and it would be okay to ask them to leave the kids at home. They’ll probably enjoy the evening more anyway. For out of towners I don’t know what you expect them to do with their kids. You can’t leave a kid younger than 15 home alone for the weekend. If you bring them, it’s hard and sketchy to get a babysitter in a strange town. We have tons of out of town guests with kids so we’re just arranging for a babysitter at the wedding.

Krispy – if you invited your friend and her husband (and it’s really not polite to not invite her husband if you were thinking he’d stay home with the kids) from out of town and you really don’t want them to bring their kids I would talk to some local friends with kids about who they use for babysitting and suggest that person to your friends.

Post # 8
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1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@missguenst: Whoa, take a deep breath! There is no reason to stress out about this! Try to remember that in the grand scheme of things this is not a big deal! Your invites were clear and hopefully people can be understanding. FI’s cousin sent us a very preachy note when they realized their kids weren’t invited, but I really just had to laugh it off. There is no point stressing about this. It will all work out!

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