Post # 1
My wedding isn’t until Februrary and I am already extremly nervous. I don’t know what the weather will do, if the ceremony will be too long or not long enough, and I’m definatley worried about the reception. I want everyone to have fun and really enjoy that part of the wedding. I think I’m being paranoid and don’t really know if being nervous this soon before the wedding is even normal. The one thing that I’m sure of is my dress. It’s so romantic and beautiful and just ME! I hope everything goes well because I plan to be with Mr B. for the rest of our lives. Am I the only one or am I just being silly?
Post # 3
not at all! when i sit down and starting thinking about the details, i get sooo nervous. i can only imagine when the day comes!
Post # 4
@HotPinkPopTart: IKR! There’s so much that runs through my mind so I hope that the day of the wedding I won’t spend the whole time stressing. I really want this to be a fun event for everyone. (Especially me and Mr B)
Post # 5
I know the feeling…my wedding is 2 months away now! Sounds like you are feeling the same jitters I have earlier…but once you have most the big details down, then it’s a bit more relieving.
Post # 6
I was so nervous in the months leading up to our wedding with all of these same fears. I just kept thinking of every single “what if” possibility and it was eating me up inside!! I wanted good weather, wanted to look beautiful, didnt want guests to think our ceremony was too long, didnt want it to be unbearably hot, wanted people to get out on the dance floor, wanted people to have fun and have no drama, wanted to have the best night of my life. It is a lot of pressure to have all these expectations!!!
When our wedding day came I was not nervous AT ALL. Not even a little bit. I was just so excited it was our wedding day and I was marrying my husband! In the end, there were little things that I wish I could go back and fix, but all of the things I worried so much about worked out. The little mishaps are what make your own wedding YOURS and memorable and become funny stories later on. I am a very anxious person in general and I was also worried about being the center of attention. My wedding day was honestly the best day of my life so far. I had so much fun that night, that whole day and the entire weekend!! It is normal to have these concerns but just know that everything will be okay!
Post # 7
Dude, I totally felt this way until about a month or so ago and since then my thoughts have been F it, what’s done is done and there isn’t anything I can do about it. My focus has been totally on the honeymoon for the past month. I think that once you get closer you’ll probably calm down a bit because all the decisions will be done and you can’t do anything else 🙂
-Good Luck & best wishes!
Post # 8
I was nervous in the months before the wedding about everything working out, and then a few weeks before the wedding I started having panic attacks for the first time in my life! There was just so much pressure; worrying about everyone having a good time, the families getting along, all of the details getting ironed out…it was driving me crazy. But the good thing is that you’re not worried about being with your fiance for the rest of your life, just about this one day! It would be much worse if you wondered if you were making the best decision.
At my actual wedding, everyone got along fine and had lots of fun! Everything will work out, don’t worry! People love weddings, so they will enjoy themselves.
Post # 9
I’m nervous … about everything – what if the weather sucks, what if the guests aren’t having a good time, what if the guests think I’m cheap by having 3 hours open bar instead of the standard 4 hrs open bar, and the list goes on and on. I am scared of the little details that haven’t been worked out yet bla bla bla … and I am glad I am not alone! I start having crazy nightmares about the wedding too, like the other night – I had a dream that my front tooth falls out on my wedding day and I got all blood stains on my wedding dress!!! Crazyness!!!
Though I am not worried about the marriage itself, we have been through so much these past 4 yrs of us together (military life, deployments, unemployment, moving 4000 miles across the country, long distance, parent and family issues, etc etc) – so I know we will be OK! I guess I’m just nervous about the day itself – hopefully things will work out!
Post # 10
I am a nervous bride as well… I have an entire year to go yet and I already get nervous thinking about things. Not to mention when I was about 13 my Dad got remarried and I was in the wedding as a bridesmaid. During the Ceremony while my Cousin was singing a beautiful song in loving memory of my Step Mom’s Mother who had passed away, I PASSED OUT! Domino effect on all the bridesmaids, and I woke up to my uncle fire fighter yelling “give her room, give her room!” This is my most embarrassing moment ever and ever since I have nerves before going to any wedding, I have been traumatized by this experience. Now here I am planning my own, I don’t know how I am going to deal with it to be honest. But I just try to remember that worrying is not going to help anything, in fact it will only make things worse for you.
I also have nightmares, at least once a week. It is always about something going wrong, like I am not wearing any shoes or I don’t have a wedding dress. I have heard this is a common thing for brides-to-be to experience.
Good luck with your planning and take it easy one day at a time. This is an experience every bride should be able to enjoy!
Post # 11
Thanks to you bees for all of your great advice and it’s nice to know that I’m not alone on this issue. Reading all of your posts have definatley brought a little bit of calm and peace to me that I really needed. I also talked to my FH and he as well let me know that all will be fine and that no matter the weather will be it will be a great day since we’ll be getting married! (How sweet was that lol) I’m trying to get the big stuff taken care of and then I think I will a little bit better. Thanks again bees!!