(Closed) Wedding jitters/fears…help

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

@Floridian Belle:  Telling people you’re nervous helps a lot. You can talk to friends and family who will be at the wedding, and casually say, “I’m so excited but I’m nervous too. Imagine if I dropped the ring or something? That’d be awful.” Then they’d laugh and say “that won’t happen” and you’ll feel better for sharing your fears. 

Fears get out of hand because we keep them to ourselves, blow them out of proportion, imagine the worst case scenario, over-exaggerate the fallout if the feared event occurred etc. What if you did drop the ring? Maybe your eyes would widen and your cheeks would turn bright red and a lovely bridesmaid would dive to the ground and retrieve it. Your SO would smile and the audience would chuckle and you’d put the ring on his hand. Then you’d become husband and wife and walk down the aisle. It wouldn’t be a disaster even if it did happen but I doubt it would.

Whenever I have nagging “what if” thoughts, I picture them as a the title of a newspaper article to see if it’s something I should actually worry about. Here’s how it would read;

“Blushing Bride Drops the Ring and Someone Picked it Up and the Wedding Carried On”

Ah, that’s not so bad after all, huh?

Post # 5
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372 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I feel the same way. I’m mostly nervous because I have to be in front of all the guests. I’ve never really been nervous doing other things in front of people, but since this is a wedding it kind of freaks me out. I think in the end everything will be fine. If you drop the ring or something it will actually appear as something kind of cute 🙂

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Floridian Belle:  Honestly, during the ceremony, the only people you’ll be paying attention to are your Fiance and maybe the officiant. Everyone else just falls away. It’s weird. But it really doesn’t feel like public speaking at all!!! I read my vows in this strong voice the way you would while practicing alone — you know, where you pause in all the right places and hit the emotional parts a little louder. The audience didn’t even count!

So seriously, don’t worry. And yeah, if anything minor goes on, just laugh it off. I had trouble getting DH’s ring on his finger, so when I finally succeeded I shouted “got it!” and everyone laughed. You’ll have yourselves a great and very forgiving audience. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a wedding get booed 😉

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

@Floridian Belle:  I should have mentioned that I just went to a wedding on August 11, and there were a lot of nervous people who are usully very level-headed and calm. My SO was freaked out about having to do a best man’s speech. He flipped a joke around and it came out all wrong and he stammered for a sec and then carried on. It barely made  ripple and nobnody seemed to care about his gaffe. The bride was very nervous about having to kiss in front of the big crowd but she was fine. The maid of honor was also nervous about her speech but got through it just fine. The anticipation is always the worst part! 

Post # 8
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2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Remember, your wedding is full of people who love you.

No sharks, no mean girls, no enemies!

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

@axeyourmakeupkit:  exaclty!

I was incredibly nervous and I suck at memorizing anything,,, so we had vows written down and had our officiant hand us slips of paper with notes on them. 

its natural to be nervous, its a big event, but as was said before everyone in the room allready knows you and loves you, if you are naturally shy and nervous they will know that about you and they wouldn’t expect you to be any other way. 

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