Post # 1
Married Bees! I know us engaged girls stress out so much about things going wrong/not as planned on the big day, so wondering if you had any “mishaps” at your wedding that only you, your planner or other wedding insiders noticed. For example, the dinner went much later than expected, something crazy happened with the cake, etc. Looking forward to your stories 🙂
Post # 2
I had a few…the head table decor was done completely wrong. I spent a lot of time working with the florist to design a unique headtable and it was set up like a reception table (still a little pissed about that one). The lighted gobo that was projected on the wall was not the one we chose and paid for (which I ended up getting a refund for) and they served filet mignon instead of ribeye….which you would think would be awesme except I liked the ribeye better then the filet mignon, but the worst was that my dress was altered too tight so after the reception I had to undo the back zipper and buttons some and I wore my bridal hoodie for the rest of the night! lol! It was so tight it was giving me severe rib pain! Here’s me in my hoodie! However people who know me know that I always have a hoodie on and Im always cold so they all just assumed I was wearing it just because I was being me!
Post # 3
great thread idea! commenting to follow
lol, you look cute and comfy in your hoodie 🙂
Post # 4
My husband and I were going to do a receiving line of sorts right before the buffet. We figured it’d be a great way to talk to everyone while they were already lined up, and then once everyone got food, we’d get food, too, and join them inside! However, our post-ceremony pictures ended up taking longer than expected so I made the quick decision that I’d rather skip the receiving line than have people eat late. I literally shouted down to a bridesmaid from where we were taking photos “MAKE PEOPLE START EATING!” and acted out charades of people eating. Thank goodness my bridesmaids knew my schedule well enough to understand what I was saying haha! Not a single guest knew what happened, because it’s not like we told anyone we’d do a receiving line. But I was very proud of my fast decision-making that kept us on schedule, haha.
Another schedule mistake: speeches took longer than expected, so instead of (1) cutting cake, (2) then sneaking off with my husband for some sunset photos, and (3) bringing everyone outside for a big group photo, we had to dash away after speeches to get a few photos in JUST as the sun was going down. We then came back and cut cake after, and never got the group photo. Again, no one but me knew (and the photographer) how the schedule changed, so to everyone else, the day went perfectly smoothly!
Knowing your schedule inside out so you can make last-minute adjustments to keep it running smoothly = PRICELESS!!!
Post # 5
Someone moved our memory candle, but nbd, it was just lit at the reception instead. Also, a couple songs from our “do not play” list snuck in, but of course Darling Husband and I were the only ones to know that.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2014 - Church and University
The luminaries I had with battery operated tea lights in them weren’t held down by rocks/sand the way my coordinator said she would do them. They were blowing all over the place!
My 7-months pregnant bridesmaid got pulled over by campus police for driving the campus golf cart back to the reception space after pictures. She was hugely uncomfortable and it was about 200 yards from the reception to the picture site. We were able to laugh about it, but criminy! So, no one knew about it except for our wedding party.
Post # 7
Our planned last song of the night was played as the 5th song (DJ forgot because he got so many requests for it). That wasn’t a big deal once i figured out the reception wasn’t about to end :). Also my husband couldn’t find his car keys for about 15 min, so it delayed our exit (in the wrong tux bag).
Post # 8
Oh what a great thread! Commenting to follow
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)
Our ceremony venue was setup with one center aisle and chairs all the way to the walls when we arrived. We setup our decor as planned and everything was good to go, my decor consisted of my aisle runner and tulle draped all down each side of the center aisle. As we were putting on finishing touches, my Mother-In-Law walked in and said…”how do people get to the chairs?” It literally never occured to me or my BM’s that we had blocked the center aisle and there were no outside aisles and we would’ve just walked out of there. We ended up just pulling the rows of chairs from the edges and moving them to make extra rows in the back so that people could still be escorted and sat but I couldn’t believe that none of us realized it. What a mess that would’ve been had people started showing up!! For a visual, this is what it looked like:
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2016 - Ever After Banquet Hall
I wouldn’t say no one noticed, but at my first wedding, during the ceremony, the flowers in one of the candleabras caught on fire. Well, I guess, that’s overstating it a little. They were real flowers, so they really just smoked and smoldered a little. If they had been silk, whoosh! They would have been up in flames. My uncle was videotaping right by them and put them out.
My DJ mispronounced our name on our big entrance (it’s Hayward, not Haywood). He also played th wrong song for the party dance. Also, when it came time for the bouquet/garter tosses, I wasn’t ready. The garter I wore for the ceremony had a crystal heart on it…not tossing that. He announced that there would be “dead air while the bride changes her garter.” Nice. I hated that DJ. He was paid to play till 2 am. Most guests were gone and we were cleaning up by 11. I made him keep playing till my dad finally let him go LOL
I guess the moral of the story is, it doesn’t matter if anyone notices or not. It makes for a good story later LOL You may not think it funny at the moment, but, trust me, you will eventually LOL
Post # 11
We ran out of craft beers only a few hours in and had to switch to some Kokanee and Bud Light and such lol. No one seemed to mind!
My table runners were totally the wrong color. No one cared but me.
My husband’s redneck uncle was given ONE JOB (to open the gate for vendors for a half-hour. we set him up with a lawn chair and a cooler full of beer. all he had to do was open the gate) but he decided he didn’t want to do this job, but said nothing to us, and instead just disassembled the gate so he didn’t have to let anyone in. The venue almost kicked us out. It was traumatic.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
We misplaced our marriage license the morning of, and even worse, didn’t even realize it was gone until the next day! Our friend got ordained to marry us, so none of us knew what the hell we were doing, haha. He was like “Weren’t we supposed to sign something yesterday?” Oh shit!
But hey, no one was the wiser and it was a great wedding. Whatever goes wrong (and something will for sure), the guests won’t even notice or it will pale in comparison to the fun and joy : )
Post # 13
To those getting married: as someone whose seen a lot of speeches, if your hiring a band or DJ make sure you allot more time than you think for speeches. The amount of times we’ve been called out to “go on any minute now” and stood onstage for a good 10 minutes…last gig we were supposed to go after eating at like 9:15, we didn’t start playing until around 9:50 because they had 2 members of each side (BM and GM) do speeches. It was supposed to be a dance set, but they had the cake cutting (aka another break for us) scheduled at 10:15, so we only had time for a few songs before we were breaking again.
Post # 14
A week before the reception our venue told us the tables we had set up were too big and that we would have to totally redo the seating chart, making all of our hand calligraphered escort cards wrong as there was now a totally different configuration of tables. I redid the seating chart that took me a month that night. We super rush printed giant stickers for the back to cover the number and literally no one who didnt already know noticed.
The ceremony musicians played none of the songs I wanted (and a few we explicitaly asked them not to play). We had arraigned for a harp/flute/string trio and got a string quortet. The first group just totally forgot and my coordinator managed to find a replacement when the first group didnt show. I only just learned about this, so there, not even the bride knew something had gone wrong.