(Closed) Wedding Money or Gifts?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Honey bee

It changes a lot region to region what is typical. Have you been to a wedding in your family or with your friends before? What happened to them is the best gauge for you.

We received only cash except 3 actualy gifts from people who couldnt come and they were mailed.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Money, but Darling Husband and I didn’t get many gifts at all from most guests that attended.

We had two showers and that’s where we got a majority of our gifts (also cash since we were planning a cross country move.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Overall we received way more actual gifts, but out of the gifts at the wedding, it was about half and half (I think we only had 10 actual gifts and we had 170 people at the wedding).  Half of our gifts were sent before the wedding and about a quarter of them were sent while we were on our honeymoon, so most people didn’t bring anything to the wedding. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We received cash for majority of our wedding gifts. We had 90 guests at our wedding and 5 couples gave us actual gifts(which were given before and after wedding) and another 5 couples gave us gift cards. The rest was cash or cheque! We only put a few things on our registry as we preferred money so we could use it to buy some furniture.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We got mostly cash but I would think many of your guests would realize that you have to travel and send anything bulky ahead of time.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m fron NJ and my Fiance is from MI. When I told him it’s traditional that people bring gifts to the shower and money to the wedding he was really confused. I think it’s a regional thing. So if you have a lot of people from MI, they might be bringing gifts. ๐Ÿ™ Best of luck. Do you have anyone who can help you caravan some stuff back over?

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I told my Fiance about your wedding and he said ooh is she getting married at the Grand Hotel, it really is grand. ๐Ÿ™‚ Mackinac Island is his fave place in MI. I really have to see it. Sounds like you’ll have an awesome setting for your wedding. ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think we received more checks/money for the wedding. However, we also had a Destination Wedding both for us and most of our guests. We live in CA, but got married in Boston, and we left on our honeymoon in Europe directly from there. So taking gifts with us or home was just not an option. Not even the checks or cards! We kindly asked all of our guests not to bring anything at all to the wedding. If they wanted to gift us something they could mail it to our place in CA where a friend was bringing in mail and packages for us. Some people brought checks/cards to the wedding and we had to make a point to deposit them immediately and mail the cards back to our place. 

In any case, we got more money as wedding gifts and only a few items.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@ashleyyyg:  We’re actually not registering for gifts.  Monetary gifts are usually the norm in my FI’s culture.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

More cash than physical gifts.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@ashleyyyg: If people are flying in themselves, I’m sure you can expect more cards and money than merchandise. Oh man the way you describe it makes me want to visit even more. I hear ya on places asking for ridiculous amounts of money for weddings. We are going with a gorgeous barn reception. Everything else was ridiculously expensive. Have fun at your lovely and unique wedding. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Quite possible that most of  your guests give you money as your wedding gift because they knew all the things about your wedding plan before……… that if they give you gift it would be hard for you to carry out all the gifts with you at home…..So I think they will give you the money instead of giving you gift…..

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