Post # 1
i feel so sad/empty right now. i lost my job in june and just got a new one that’s only part time @ 815/hr. my soon to be husband is working 35 hours a week at 9/hr + comission. we figured we could do it then we were involved in an auto accident plus he has recently maxed his cards so now he is thousands from the cards and others bill plus the car and we figure it will take a while probably about a year to pay it all off then start from scratch for the wedding so now instead of being married in 15 months it’ll most likely be 3-4 more years. has any of you brides ever gone through this. i just feel so sad and stupid, i feel stupid cause i begged him to take me to a concert he didn’t want to go to and we were driving there when the accident happened. i just am lost. all the planning is just a bust.
Post # 4
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I am sorry hun. It’s a very good thing you two weren’t hurt!
What type of wedding would you like to have?
Post # 5
🙁 I’m so sorry!
could you guys elope down at the courthouse and in 2015 have your “dream” wedding?
Post # 6
i wanted a church wedding with a medium size reception and only about a 100 people there, family would do catering and colors would be purple,silver and white and the day was november 24th.
Post # 7
@nicolettemarie93: You could always have a civil ceremony and renew your vows at your wedding in 2015. Just something to think about.
Post # 8
So sorry hun! Dont blame yourself. Clearly you never meant to get in an accident!!
If i were you, i would have a very small intimate ceremony, just a civil one and like a bbq afterward this year. And then when you have the funds do a vow renewal. I could never wait that long to get married!!
Post # 9
it sounds like you are in a difficult life situation right now, financially and emotionally. I’m guessing from the wages that you are both young, and in entry-level positions, so maybe it is better to wait on things, see where life takes you both.
If you decide to postpone so far in advance, save your sanity and STOP PLANNING. seriously. You’ll drive yourself insane (and your Boyfriend or Best Friend too)
it wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world! if you guys are still happy and strong and in love in a few years you’ll be even more sure that you want to get married, and hopefully your work situations will have improved so you can afford the wedding without much debt.
and you can’t blame yourself for the accident. You wanted to go to the concert, why not? Fate had other plans. It sucks, but learn what you need to from the experience, and if it’s patience… then so be it.
Post # 10
I agree with swizzle. If you are sure you want to marry, plan a simple ceremony and a BBQ to celebrate for next summer (or just do the ceremony). Then when you have more money saved, do a big party & your dream wedding for a one year vow renewal. If you wait til 2015, in my opinion, the wedding will become a sore topic and it will be hard on your relationship. Better to marry and be livin’ on love, planning your dream receptionf for 2014 ir 2015 to celebrate the renewal of vows.