Wedding must have? *your opinion*

posted 9 months ago in Traditions
Post # 16
40 posts

A must have for me is to schedule in nap time in between ceremony and reception. I proposed to our coordinator that instead of pictorials, I’d nap during cocktail hour. She took it as a joke, but I’m dead serious. Naps are essential! 

Post # 17
765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

sinsyddy :  My musty haves are immediate family and friends. 

Post # 18
4663 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I wouldn’t call them must haves but our priorities were: plenty to eat, plenty to drink and a great photographer to capture it all.

Post # 19
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2019 - City, State


excellent food/drinks for guests


We are not doing a bridal shower, engagement accouncements or wedding announcements, or engagement party. 

Post # 20
1888 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Food, alcohol, family, friends, vows, and some photos. 

I am not at all picky about decor and could totally leave flowers. 

Post # 21
745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

sinsyddy :  I had a couple huge musts! One big must for me was to have my ceremony and reception at the same location. I really did not want to have any gap between the two and have them flow seamlessly into each other.

Another huge must for me was doing traditional paper and mail RSVP cards. I think it add a level of formality to an event and just feel that since it such a special event, it should be done in a special way.

And the big one, that I know people are going to give me sh*t for is an open bar. I think open bars are a must at any wedding.

Post # 22
812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

My must haves are:

– Friends and family

– Cool all-in-one venue

– Nice dress

– Good food and drinks

I’m not opposed to other aspects, but I won’t be putting the effort into them.

I’m not planning to have an elaborate wedding website or invitations/ save the dates beyond what’s needed to getting the date out there.

Our venue is the conservatory at a botanic garden, so we don’t plan on having other decorations or flowers.

We’re going to have a short and simple ceremony with a non-traditional wedding party, if we even have one in terms of having people stand during the ceremony. If we do, I’m going to have my brother and my friend from grad school, and they can wear whatever they want.

We’ll have a photographer, but mostly for candids and photos of the venue because I don’t care about photos of me and don’t want to take time away from the experience to pose for them.

My SO has opinions on the reception music, so I’m leaving it entirely up to him.

I won’t be having a bachelorette party, but I think my mom and godmother want to have a shower for me. I honestly don’t enjoy bridal showers, but I know my mom will enjoy it, so I’m ok with it if it makes her happy.

Post # 23
514 posts
Busy bee

For my 2nd marriage, we had a tiny wedding. Literally just me, my (now) husband, my two children and my Mother-In-Law, Brother-In-Law & SIL. It was last minute planned and very budget, but my must haves were rings, flowers (bouquet for me and petals for my daughter to throw – her request), “champagne” and a wedding cake. Besides the clothes and rings everything was organised by my lovely Brother-In-Law.  I wore a non-traditional dress and decided to get my hair and makeup done professionally at the last minute. We took our own photos. It was intimate, simple and lovely! We stayed in a nice hotel for 2 nights with my children and went to one of our favourite restaurants on our wedding day for lunch ❤️ It was a really special day 😊

Post # 24
841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

Food/booze in a beautiful location, as well as photography. So far all of our choices have fallen in to place. 

Post # 25
23 posts

A viedographer! Our wedding video is our favorite thing ever. We love it more than even our photos! With viedo you dont have to sort through 800 photos and pick a few to print. We get to watch our wedding day unfold over and over again. We love not only being able to see the love and emotion, but also hear it and remember what was said and how the day went! Highly recommend a video!

Post # 26
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

i was never going to budge on open bar and excellent food. it was too important to me. and my dress. i needed to have one i loved. everything else was an after thought

Post # 28
6602 posts
Bee Keeper

-Amazing food

-Amazing drink (especially since we got married in wine country)

-Super fun party

It was lovely. 

Post # 29
1218 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

-Small & intimate (close friends and family only)

-Dream dress

-Good photographer

-Open bar

Post # 30
313 posts
Helper bee

Beautiful location, intimate and good food. In that order. We pretty much ditched everything else. 

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