Wedding must have?

posted 3 years ago in Favors
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’m no expert and I don’t know anything about American Wedding”etiquette”, but as a matter of interest, I DO know that the giving of Wedding Favours is actually a tradition which goes back centuries. 

In Western Europe, the practice of giving ‘bonbonnieres’, pretty boxes full of sugared fruit and sweets, started when sugar was rare and expensive.  Over time this evolved into a gift of 5 sugared almonds which signified wishes to the newly-weds for Health, Wealth, Happiness, Fertility and Long Life.  It was never anything to do with giving guests a gift or saying thank you – inviting them to share in the feast does that.

So, if you’re going to do favours at all, sweets is a good traditional way to go 🙂

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I don’t think they are necessary,  but decided yheyvwould be nice,  so we ended up giving put candy filled boxes.  They all got taken,  so I’m hoping they’re enjoyed. It was actually a lot if fun putting them together.  We got together as a family the night before the wedding and assembled them. This included my parents,  sisters,  their husbands, my brother,  and my oldest nephew.  We had a blast and it made for a break for the incessant board gaming they were doing that week. 

 

Post # 18
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Busy bee

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johanna2868 :  me too! I once went to a bridal shower with my mom as a little girl and brought home a compact with the brides name on it but I used that thing until I was in high school! Everyone would be like “who’s Vanessa?” And I be like “I can barely even remember” lol 

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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soontobe101 :  definitely not necessary. If you skip them, guests likely won’t even notice. Honestly, the only ones that i remember are the terrible favors that i left behind 😂 if a wedding had no favors, i don’t remember it, lol. 

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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xiexie :  you realize that Koozies go around bottles too (Koozie lover here) (;

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

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catskillsinjune :  LOL – I didn’t know that!  But sadly that wouldn’t get any use either.  I only drink fruity cocktails (pina coladas and frozen margs – I’m so basic!) and wine and FH is kind of a scotch-on-the-rocks guy.  Do they work on glasses?

Post # 22
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Honey Beekeeper

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sensiblesusie :  Those are specific traditions to certain groups and cultures, not meant, as you point out, as a souvenir or thank you. If that were the case I’d think OP would probably be aware. 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

We’re probably doing without.  Honestly it’s hard for me to remember which weddings had favors and which didn’t and often they got forgotten at the venue after all the drinking and dancing.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Ugh..wedding favors. My fiance did not see eye to eye on these things. I think they are just silly. He really wanted something. But I think he’s forgotten about them becasue it has not come up since shortly after we were engaged. lol

If I do end up having to compromise on them with him, it will be for edible ones. 

Post # 26
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Busy bee

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johanna2868 :  I’m with you!! I keep everything! I also end up taking other people’s home too! The last wedding I went to had the most divine fudge pieces made by someone in the wedding party, I ate mine before the starter arrived!! And then I took everyone else’s home too! 

 

People do leave favours though which I think is a shame but I love them and will be having them regardless!

Post # 27
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Newbee

The most useful non-edible favor I ever got was a carabiner. The couple was super outdoorsy so it was perfect. It’s got their names and date on it, but I’m still using it 5 years later to hold my water bottle!

I used to be a photobooth attendant, and (confession) I used to occasionally snag leftover favors for a snack on the way home from weddings. After one I got in the car and inside the nice little box was a tiny framed picture of the couple. I imagine those cost a ton, and SO many people left them. Bit presumptuous and vain, I thought. Also, I was hangry.

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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xiexie :  depends on the glass 😉 but most cocktail glasses, probably not (i’ve tried. we have a whole stash of koozies (it’s basically the only personalized wedding favor i actually like and think is fun because who really cares what it says on it), and i can’t remember the last time i drank anything fromm a can!

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2019

We are skipping them and I can’t remember the last wedding I went to that gave favours, or they must not have been very memorable LOL

Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Nope.

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