(Closed) Wedding \"must-haves\" that you\'re doing/did without?

posted 4 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
719 posts
Busy bee

What are you being told you must have?

If we’re being technical, all you must have is a marriage license. If you’re having a party, then you must have a place, something to wear, and some sort of refreshment.

Post # 3
817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

Quetzalcoatlus:  We had a Capital W Wedding, quite traditional. We skipped the florist–a couple friends, my Mother-In-Law, and I did my flowers two days before the wedding. We ordered oodles of baby’s breath from 50Flowers, made ceterpieces and bouquets, and brought them to the venue that morning. Got a lot of compliments, tables weren’t naked, and pictures looked good. Bam. Only cost us $300 including vases. (which were glasses from IKEA) We also skipped the videographer, although one of my parents’ friends videoed everything and put together a wedding video for us. We didn’t know he was going to do it and were really surprised at how much it meant to us. So if it’s in the budget, I would recommend that, at least for the ceremony and toasts. I also did my own hair and a friend helped me with my makeup.

Post # 4
530 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

florist (diy), 

cake (diy)


wedding ring for me




Post # 5
3847 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I decided long ago that many wedding traditions weren’t for me:

  • We aren’t getting married in a church or by a priest/pastor, rather, a friend
  • Fiance and I are writing the ceremony ourselves and have left religion out of it completely
  • I’m not wearing a traditional wedding dress
  • We opted against traditional bridesmaids dresses and groomsmen tuxes for a more casual look
  • No flowers. Having a brooch bouquet made and the bridesmaids are carrying flower alternative
  • No garter or garter toss
  • No wedding cake, cupcakes and dessert bar instead
  • Ring warming ceremony
Post # 7
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Our wedding was fairly traditional, but there were a few things we didn’t do or did differently and got some snide comments about (not that we cared). We did not have a flower girl, wedding favors, real flowers, or mother-son/father-daughter dances. Our secular officiant was my guidance counselor from high school and our groomsmen wore suits instead of tuxes. Dh and I did a first-look before the ceremony. Our entire wedding party hung out in our suite together for the hour leading up to the ceremony, eating, drinking, and having a grand old time. You don’t HAVE to do anything at your wedding except show up and get married. 🙂

Post # 8
370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Surrey, BC, Canada

– No flowers

– No cake

– No honeymoon (so we can pay for the rest of the shiz! lol)

– Hired new-ish photog and videographer for lower rates as they are building their portfolios (but super happy with their work!)

That’s what we’ve decided so far. You don’t have to have anything at your wedding that you don’t want to.

Post # 9
2445 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

MrsMeowton:  Lol this was my wedding almost down to the T! Best way to do it, imo 😉

Post # 10
2945 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Our biggest was no day of transpertation for anyone.  No bus to the hotel (though, only about a dozen of our guests used a hotel, most were localish) and no after the wedding transperation for the wedding party.   DH and I borrowed my parents SUV and the only reason we did that was getting my wedding dress into our car would have been a pain. 


Post # 11
1668 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

We’re not having alchohol. I don’t want it. Fiance agrees.


Post # 12
1325 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon

Quetzalcoatlus:  me too! Alcohol, dancing, and a veil are my common ones. 

Post # 13
992 posts
Busy bee


Quetzalcoatlus:  We’re doing a pretty traditional  wedding, but the one thing I absolutely do NOT want is the traditional bouquet toss/garter toss. Seriously, brand new groom with his head up my dress in front of my whole family? no thanks.

Post # 14
530 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

amanda.417:  We never even considered it.  Totally naff.

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