(Closed) Wedding “musts” you are skipping

posted 8 years ago in Traditions
Post # 47
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We are skipping wedding programs (they just get tossed after the wedding anyway), wedding cake (cupcakes instead), no tosses, no guest book (wish box instead) and no favors (we’ll donate to our favorite charity instead).

Post # 49
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@NJmeetsBX: That sounds like fun!! I love TtD sessions.

Post # 50
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I hate being wasteful so I’m skipping anything that I feel won’t serve a purpose:

No limos/fancy cars (ceremony and reception at the same location)

No bouquet/garter toss (don’t like throwing things at people)

No guest book (most people will give cards anyway)

No ceremony programs (people can just watch and follow what’s happening, it’s not that complicated)

No favours (can’t imagine why anyone would want something with our names on it)



Post # 51
795 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@MrsBroccoli:Where are you getting married? That sounds like a nice list to skip, so I wanted to talk to our coordinator (also in Baltimore) about what we can possibly skip…

Post # 52
1331 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Ringbearer: I don’t love or trust kids. My Flower Girl is 12.

Dancing: Small space, and my Fiance and I don’t dance, so we figured why bother.

Alcohol: Reception’s at a church, so….haha

Limo/Getaway Car: We already have to rent a car to drive to our honeymoon, so we’re just gonna get a pretty one and use that.

Receiving Line: We’re roaming the reception instead.

Post # 53
834 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@NJmeetsBX: We skipped a lot of things in favor of saving our pocketbook (and sanity!)

We opted to have a friend play songs from our computer’s iTunes library, rather than hire a DJ.

We didn’t get a special cake cutting set, we just borrowed from our church.

We did have monogrammed goblets, but they were a set we borrowed from DH’s parents (they used them at their wedding)

We didn’t have a bubble/sparkler/random other item thrown at us exit. We just walked out, saying goodbyes along the way. We actually left later than a lot of our guests, as we had a relatively short reception, and it was an older crowd.

We didn’t do “favors” that were monogrammed/date stamped. My Aunt made a ton of cookies as an appetizer and left out little doggie bags for guests to fill themselves on the way out the door.

No professional makeup artist. We just had a close friend from the church come shopping with me and my bridesmaids a few weeks before the wedding, and basically taught us to DIY it. She was on hand though at the ceremony, just in case I needed help.

No professional photographer. A good friend and his sister photographed the event for us for $350. Originally, it was just going to be my friend, but he told me he was bringing his sister to assist at no additional charge to me. (I’m still gonna help the guy out though, since he was nice enough to pay his sister some of the original $350) He photographed like a madman, and I’m very happy with all the photographs he returned to me.

No ceremony extras. We didn’t like the idea of unity candles/sand ceremonies/etc. We did choose to include communion, as it was very important to us.

No professional decorator. I designed all the centerpieces myself, and had some friends from church set them up for me. I tried to keep them as simple as possible, to save time, money, and to keep things easier for the folks kind enough to lend us a hand. I also decorated the church two days before the wedding, with the help of the pastor, his wife, their daughter, my in-laws, and DH’s aunt.

No professional florist. I went to Hobby Lobby, bought as many silk hydrangeas as I could get, and a few other do-dads and made all the bouquets, centerpieces, and other miscellaneous floral items at the wedding. The church also had a few ferns/arrangments already available, and I took advangage of that.

No “reserved” signs for pews. I just found some old tulle, tied small, conservative bows on two front rows, and left it at that.

No professional baker. My aunt baked the wedding cake as her gift to us, and my Mother-In-Law baked the groom’s cake. She’s kind of famous for her groom’s cakes, and has made them for just about every wedding in our family/church family.

No aisle runner.

No alcohol. Budget wouldn’t allow it, and we didn’t really need it. My parents did bring a few of those samplers you get from the package store, and made sure they shared with me and a few other folks at their table lol. I found that amusing.

No professional videographer. We were content going completely without, but Father-In-Law and my Uncle both stepped up and decided to film the event. I’m still waiting on the dvd from my uncle.

No group/line dances.

No limo/get away car. Just my trusty little Civic 🙂 Though my poofy dress was difficult to fit into that tiny front seat.

No “reception dress”. I just wore my gown all night, left the ceremony, and changed at the in-law’s house on the way to the hotel. This allowed us to pick up our luggage, as well as leave DH’s tux and my dress to be returned and cleaned. It was nice just getting to wear jeans and a t-shirt on the long car trip to the hotel.

No official ushers, we just had our groomsmen double as ushers. It was a small-ish wedding.


We did choose to keep the garter/bouquet tosses, but they were both, quick, simple, and hilarious. I also bought a small teddy bear for $3, and did a “teddy toss” for all the kids we had. They got a kick out of that, and liked being included among the “tosses”. I also had some really cheap goodie bags for the kids with $1 coloring books, crayons, candies, glowsticks (huge hit!), and a few other trinkets from target. We kept the first dance, father/daughter, and mother son dances, as those were important to us.

Post # 54
6996 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@NJmeetsBX:  we skipped the exit as well – our church wouldnt allow a recieving line after the ceremony and we were staying at the hotel where our reception was with all the other guests so i saw it pointless to drive around just to come back – when the reception ended we ended up heading to the hotel bar instead and around midnight said a round of goodbyes before heading up to your room.

Post # 55
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@colli459: We’re getting married at the Hotel Monaco in Baltimore.  Our DOC is Leslie Brodsky with catering. Used to be Randi Hilfiger, but then she left :….(

Post # 56
1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

No dad walking me down the aisle

No grand entrance

No toasts/speeches

No dancing

No cake cutting

No bouquet toss / garter toss

No grand exit

We are having a Sunday morning wedding and brunch.  The end. 

Post # 57
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

we are skipping the favors, as I never ever really use them anyways and they just collect dust. anddddd drumline… the cake! haha… $900.00 for a cake? and my Fiance and I dont even like cake… so NO! a nice dinner dancing and drinks is plently!

Post # 58
28 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

What we’re not doing:

No throwing anything, garter, bouquet, rice, etc

No head table:  I hate this, I don’t want to be on display and I think it’s more fun for the members of the bridal party to sit with their dates.. We’re sitting at a table with just us, our parents, and grandparents.  

No grand exit

No cake: we’re doing pie

No recieving line- we’re going to go to cocktail hour and say hi to everyone during dinner or another point in the evening

No favors-  We’re making donations to two charities

No group dances

No bridal party only dances

Have a great wedding!!


Post # 59
13 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m skipping out on the whole cake cutting thing. I am having cupcakes instead of a regular cake and I think we might just feed each other the cupcakes-no need to make a small cake just to cut into it. Also, I’m not having a unity candle-which where I am from is a “MUST”.

Post # 60
795 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@MrsBroccoli:I’m so sorry to hear that 🙁 Fiance and I looked at the Hotel Monaco, but they never replied to our RFP. Might have been during the transition time. We’ll be down the street a bit at the Intercontinental… Best of luck to you both Smile

Post # 61
357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

No bouquet or garter toss

No programs

No exit 

Not introducing bridal party

Not waiting until ceremony to see each other- first look

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