(Closed) Wedding “musts” you are skipping

posted 8 years ago in Traditions
Post # 62
363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

For us it was

  • no readings/poems/quotes in the ceremony
  • no garter/bouquet toss
  • no dance with parents
  • no big exit (we left after the guests)
  • no speeches
  • no fancy cars or limos
  • no recieving lines
  • no kids or flower girls/ring bearer

Post # 63
2554 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

To add:

– No wedding party dance

– No unity candle or sand ceremony or extra ceremony stuff

– Myself and my BMs are going to the ceremony in regular cars, and Fiance and GMs in a taxi (our hotel is close by the venue). We are getting a Limo for after the ceremony to cart the wedding party around for pictures.

Post # 64
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We are skipping the bouquet and garter toss.

Post # 65
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m saying NO to:

wearing a veil

the wedding march or anything other classic/traditional music. A christian contempory band is playing and we’re getting married in front of the set up!  Also…if I don’t listen to it everyday, why play it at my wedding?

unity candles…isn’t a wedding a unity ceremony?

recieving line…isnt thing what a reception is for?

Real flowers….I’m not a flower person

Speeches…I get embarrassed easily and HATE being the center of attention.  Getting married is enough for me

A hugely expensive/elaborate cake…everyone picks and chooses whats important to them, and cake just isn’t on the top of the list.  We’ll have a modest cake in whatever the caterer can do.  I just don’t care.

Professional makeup….My own makeup looks better than any pro-make up i’ve ever had done.  I am getting my hair done by a professional just cuz I want something that I couldn’t do myself.

No ymca, celebration, shout, or other cheesey dance songs.  I honestly can’t stand them and forbid them from being played.



Post # 66
36 posts

I feel like we’re skipping everything!

– Pie and cookies instead of cake. We might do a pie cutting, but no shoving it in each other’s faces, ick.

– No bridal party, flower girl, ring bearers, etc.

– No unity candle/sand/etc. We may do a wine/letter box ceremony.

– No garter, no veil, no tosses of anything.

– No rings! Seriously, we just don’t like jewelry at all. (I don’t have an e-ring, either.)

– No fancy transport, we’ll be riding a tandem bike!

– No individual programs. We’ll just have a big one written on a chalkboard near the ceremony area.

– No DJ, we’re just using my laptop. (I always make playlists for friend’s parties, so why not do this myself?)

– No announcements. We just did electronic save-the-dates that doubled as our engagement annoucement.

Post # 67
2107 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

No garter toss (I HATE them), no cake server set (what a waste of money!), and I’m really leaning towards no chair covers.  I really don’t think that they’re needed. 

Post # 68
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

There are some things that I wasn’t really flexible on cutting out but considering our reception and ceremony were in the same location, there were some things we needed to cut out and others we wanted to cut out:


1.) No special readings during the ceremony (we are doing the rose ceremony, because I think it’s really sweet and unique. People lump it in with other things like the sand ceremony but I think it’s beautifully different).

2.) No grand exit and no throwing of rice/birdseed/bubbles

3.) No aisle runner b/c it’s outside (I am making DIY wire ribbon bows to place on the benches in the ceremony location)

4.) No limos/transportation (everything is at a mansion that we have for the weekend, so it’s not logical)

5.) No uplighting (this seems to be a new trend with a lot of brides, but our reception location is loaded with windows and it’s a 3-8 PM affair on June 30th…the lights would be lost).

6.) No garter toss (It just makes me nauseous – but since we got a free throwaway bouquet for the toss, we will be doing the bouquet toss)

7.) No engagement party

8.) No Save-the-Dates (We are sending invites out early to try to see if we have room for people on the B list to come if A listers decline)

9.) No announcements of any kind

I was able to keep my budget down because my venue included a LOT of things (a cake from a fantastic outside baker, floral centerpieces from a fabulous, affordable florist) and because David’s Bridals Rewards program and affordable prices has made things a lot easier to buy. (Especially the invitations… I got 100 layered invitations with themograph writing for 120!! No lie…they are gorgeous and because of DB I got 30% off)…

Post # 69
1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We actually, won’t have a traditional wedding at all.

We won’t have any music after (at the “reception”) as the “reception” is a baseball game.

We won’t have any children in our wedding, just the dog.

No unity candle/sand nothing, we’re doing a reading though, of All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarden.

I think we’re doing solo flowers, sunflowers.

No bar, there will be some beer/wine but they’re paying for it.

No “sweetheart table”. We’ll be sitting at our own table though.

We’re having cupcakes. Though I think we get a large cupcake for the two of us.

Our food is hamburgers and hotdogs.

No one can trash our car, as if you leave you can’t come back (not our rules, baseball stadium)

No grand exit/entrance. Though we’re throwing first pitch.

No announcements.

We’ll be riding in his Mazda Miata.


Post # 70
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@gogogiraffes: Umm….can I just say that the fact your reception IS a baseball game is one of the coolest things ever? 🙂 How awesome is that.. I was hoping that we could have a jack and jill party with my friends at a NY Yankees game since most of the Bridal Party are Yankees fans…but the wedding reception as a game? Totally awesome!

Post # 71
343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

In order of non-appearance 🙂 …


No engagement pictures

No veil

No flower girl or ring bearer

No ceremony event like unity candle or wine box

No DJ introductions of the bridal party (probably no DJ!)

No sweetheart table or head table

No receiving line, though we will definitely make our rounds of the dinner tables

No champagne toast

No favors

No bouquet toss or garter toss (probably the only thing I feel strongly about omitting)

No cake (@hecallsmelove — we’re also thinking about ice cream sundaes… my cousin did this years ago and I loved it!)

No big exit

No trash the dress

Post # 72
2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

– No mini people (ring bearer, flower girl, junior whatever, etc)

– bouts (we did pocket squares instead, looked fine)

– live music at the ceremony (took forever to convince my mom that it would sound okay)

– unity ceremony (beyond the whole exchanging of the rings)

– receiving line (went to the tables, multiple times)

– alcohol (people went back to the hotel and drank afterwards, but I didn’t have to deal with it)

– bouquet/garter toss (I would poke an eye out with my dried lavender, and no way was Darling Husband going up my skirt at the wedding)

– no line dances (everything was swing and we didn’t even do a stroll or the shim-sham)

– no grand exit

Post # 73
2977 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011


Ring bearer/flowergirl. (No kids at all in fact)

grand exit

get away car (we partied w/ our guests till the end then hailed a cab cos we were too tipsy to drive his car. romantic? no. smart? yes.)

unity candle/sand ceremony

garter placement, altho I did wear a garter and we had the traditional bouquet/garter toss, the difference being my bouquet was made up of $1 bill roses to equal $20, and the garter had a $20 attached. Whoever caught them got 20 bucks with no awkward dance neccessary. 

Seperate ceremony & reception venues. We had our ceremony and reception all in one place. It was awesome, easy, and guests really loved not having to hoof it all over town. 

Flower centerpieces. We used submerged beargrass with floating candles and artificial callas.  Each table had one or the other. 

Post # 74
5656 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

No Cake: We’re having a wedding pie instead. Comes with our meal, so much much cheaper!

No Flowers: No real ones anyway, I made all the flowers out of tissue paper!

No open bar: We’re providing wine with dinner but any additional drinks are from a cash bar.

No garter toss: I hate this tradition. We’re also doing a fairly untraditional bouquet toss haha! 

Post # 75
2135 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsBroccoli: Holy cow, now I am thinking about getting those shoes. The “brand” name printed on the shoe is extremely close to what my last name will be!

Post # 76
1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@cmvmph: haha we planned it that way! We rented a suite (so I could change) and stuff. And it’s really cheap (I hate to admit) I only had to pay PP to eat and have a seat. And they sectioned our seats off. They aren’t great. But I figured that was a pretty good favor. We’ll still have some M&M jars the color of our wedding, in little tins from Walmart. But nothing crazy over the top.

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