Post # 1
Ok so I have debated on asking advice abot this topic, mainly because I am really shy when it comes to this stuff. So a little back story, I am not a virgin, but haven’t had sex in years, and my FH is still a virgin. He is not the type of guy that gropes or is all over you, he is quite shy, and we have never done anything other that kiss. So I am a littlt of a whole lot of nervous about the whole sex thing. I am just worried about getting there and getting to that point. Any advice? Has anyone else had similar problems?
Post # 3
@fabchase1: Are you waiting until your wedding night?
The first time, of course, is really nerve-wracking for everyone. Remember your first-first time? 🙂 if you are waiting until your wedding night, just remember that there will probably be no night of your life more romantic than that, that it couldn’t be any better than that to be together for the first time. Don’t expect it to go perfectly- it rarely does- it’s okay to be nervous but just remember to laugh, be patient, and remember how much you love each other in the moment. Tell him what you want and ask him what he wants. And remember that probably each of you is just as nervous as the other. Just smile, take a few deep breaths and relax, and take it easy!
Post # 4
We werecho exhausted we did not have sec on our wedding night. But when you do have sex for the first time just use a lot of foreplay and lubricant. He might have a hard time sustaining an erection. It takes practice! Even if you don’t have sex until you cum it will still be an amazing experience. Make sure you pee before and after to prevent a UTI.
Post # 5
@nawella: Yes we were planning on it, but I know we will be exhausted.
Thanks for all the advice!
Post # 6
Suggestions (in no particular order)
-use a good quality lubricant, you haven’t had sex in a long time, this should help (especially if the foreplay is lacking since he’s new at it)
-tell him (in a gentle/nice way) things you like or things you might like
-play a game of exploring each other’s bodies
-if you don’t make it all the way the first night, don’t be disapointed, start with something new and then build up each day after marriage until you get to your desired goal
-buy a vibrator, this can dramatically help your experience when used (on clit) with vaginal penetration by him
-you might consider giving him a handjob or blowjob first and then having about 15-30 minutes of kissing/touching before having sex, since it’s his first time he might be very quick, getting him to orgasm once before sex might help him last longer and potentially save some embarassment
-if you drink alcohol, make sure you haven’t had too much before doing it
-be willing to take the lead
Good luck and enjoy!
Post # 7
@fabchase1: well since you have done it before you may need to be the initiator and maybe be on top the first time.
Post # 8
First off, relax!
My husband and I were both virgins when we married so we were both nervous about the wedding night. Fortunately, we were very open and honest with each other about our fears, etc. He actually didn’t expect for us to be intimate on our wedding night because we would be so tired. I was super nervous but things sort of just happen and progress…and well, you know. 🙂 I would suggest take things slow, and COMMUNICATE. Let him know what you like and then perhaps he’ll feel comfortable doing the same.
My husband and I only kissed (on the cheek) and held hands before we got married.
Post # 9
@fabchase1: ssoooo…..how was it?! 🙂
Post # 10
@fabchase1: just keep your expectations down and be patient with each other. The first time will likely not be great from the physical aspect but will be special emotionally for the two of you. My Darling Husband and I waited and it definitely took a few tries to get in sync but I think we both still enjoyed the first time.
Post # 11
Umm. it was amazingly beautful. I don’t know why I ever worried about it. 😉
Post # 12
@fabchase1: +10000000 Congrats 🙂