(Closed) Wedding Night Advice

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@fabchase1:  Are you waiting until your wedding night?

The first time, of course, is really nerve-wracking for everyone. Remember your first-first time? ๐Ÿ™‚ if you are waiting until your wedding night, just remember that there will probably be no night of your life more romantic than that, that it couldn’t be any better than that to be together for the first time. Don’t expect it to go perfectly- it rarely does- it’s okay to be nervous but just remember to laugh, be patient, and remember how much you love each other in the moment. Tell him what you want and ask him what he wants. And remember that probably each of you is just as nervous as the other. Just smile, take a few deep breaths and relax, and take it easy!

Post # 4
2286 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

We werecho exhausted we did not have sec on our wedding night. But when you do have sex for the first time just use a lot of foreplay and lubricant. He might have a hard time sustaining an erection. It takes practice! Even if you don’t have sex until you cum it will still be an amazing experience. Make sure you pee before and after to prevent a UTI. 

Post # 6
1776 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Suggestions (in no particular order)

-use a good quality lubricant, you haven’t had sex in a long time, this should help (especially if the foreplay is lacking since he’s new at it)

-tell him (in a gentle/nice way) things you like or things you might like

-play a game of exploring each other’s bodies

-if you don’t make it all the way the first night, don’t be disapointed, start with something new and then build up each day after marriage until you get to your desired goal

-buy a vibrator, this can dramatically help your experience when used (on clit) with vaginal penetration by him

-you might consider giving him a handjob or blowjob first and then having about 15-30 minutes of kissing/touching before having sex, since it’s his first time he might be very quick, getting him to orgasm once before sex might help him last longer and potentially save some embarassment

-if you drink alcohol, make sure you haven’t had too much before doing it

-be willing to take the lead


Good luck and enjoy!


Post # 7
569 posts
Busy bee

@fabchase1:  well since you have done it before you may need to be the initiator and maybe be on top the first time.

Post # 8
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

First off, relax!


My husband and I were both virgins when we married so we were both nervous about the wedding night. Fortunately, we were very open and honest with each other about our fears, etc. He actually didn’t expect for us to be intimate on our wedding night because we would be so tired. I was super nervous but things sort of just happen and progress…and well, you know. ๐Ÿ™‚ I would suggest take things slow, and COMMUNICATE. Let him know what you like and then perhaps he’ll feel comfortable doing the same.


My husband and I only kissed (on the cheek) and held hands before we got married.

Post # 9
2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@fabchase1:  ssoooo…..how was it?! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 10
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@fabchase1:  just keep your expectations down and be patient with each other. The first time will likely not be great from the physical aspect but will be special emotionally for the two of you. My Darling Husband and I waited and it definitely took a few tries to get in sync but I think we both still enjoyed the first time. 

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