(Closed) wedding night at home or hotel?

posted 7 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would personally go to the hotel…you will have many, many nights at home!

Post # 4
10589 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

We stayed at the hotel.  It meant we could leave the party when we wanted to, and we didn’t have to travel anywhere completely exhausted.  We did get married in a different city, but I think we would have done the same thing if we got married here.

The jacuzzi, chocolate covered fruit and champagne in the hotel was a bonus!

If you really want to go home, then do that, I just don’t know why you want to!

Post # 5
2422 posts
Buzzing bee

If the hotel is offering a free night, I say jump on that offer!

Post # 6
15 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

Hello Jess,

Your fist time can be somewhat nerve wracking in general.  Try talking to your Fiance about what both of your concerns are.  If you both share what your concerns are and help support each other then you may be able to make a clear decision as to where you want to spend your first night together.  Also, try to keep in mind you will be with your husband and that will be more important then where you are.  Good luck and congratulations. 


Post # 9
1602 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I vote hotel!

We are in the same boat as you (both virgins), and it certainly is nervewracking! We’re doing a hotel simply because our reception is being held at our home, and how awkward would that be? “Hey – thanks for coming, we’re going to go have sex now”.

Also, chances are your home will be a little bit messy from all wedding related stuff, and I don’t think anyone wants to think about cleaning it the night of their wedding. Plus at the hotel you can leave the next morning without even making a bed!

Post # 11
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

By home do you mean new place you’ll be sharing (I’m assuming you’re not living together) or one of your families homes? Because I can only see being in a place where other relatives are as extremely awkward.

Either way I still vote hotel, that way if you really mess up the sheets, towels, etc you won’t have to clean them up. A little bit of added luxury…

Post # 12
2247 posts
Buzzing bee

Hotel, hotel, hotel!  I am sure the hotel will provide champagne and chocolates to you, as well.  It will be a nice little perk to leave the hectic reception and go to your quiet hotel room and relax a little before (or even if) you guys decide to experience your first time there.  Trust me, you will have plenty of time to enjoy each other at home in the future.  Honestly, I know a lot of people who don’t end up making love on their wedding night due to sleepiness or having drank too much.  Maybe you guys won’t even have sex that night, then you could have your first time at home the following evening.

Post # 13
1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think people are rooting for hotel because that’s traditionally where you think of wedding night sex.

But where would you be more comfortable? If your home relaxes you that might be the better option. If you’ve always pictured being in a hotel then do that.

If you want your first night to be at home, do that!

Post # 16
4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We planned on going home then last min. went and paid for a hotel room. SO GLAD WE DID! Honestly, it was more special to us than being at home. It made our “wedding night” more real in a weird way. We were able to check in together and it was a great start to the honeymoon! We stayed at home the night before we left (got married Sat. and left on Mon. morn) and it was nice to “come home” together the next day, relaxed, rested, married, and renewed.  We, like you, were virgins on our wedding night and we didn’t even plan on doing anything… we just decided we would just wait and see… well… we went from “just going to bed” to that only lasting about.. oh… no time. haha. The best advice I can give though is wherever you plan on going… make sure there’s some lube in your night bag. In all the virgin wedding night advice I got no one ever told me to bring lube… and it makes a huge difference.. we actually stopped by a drug store before going home to make sure we had some on our honeymoon. haha

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