(Closed) Wedding night disaster. Confused and upset

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 61
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

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soon2behb :  

This! At the very least she will get more information about what the hell happened.

Post # 62
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - State Park

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jannigirl :  Yes. People who have their face smashed in without reasonable forensic explaination are victims. 

She’s at least a victim of negligence. Negligence that likely would’ve been ruled criminal if she hadn’t woken up. 

She’s a victim.

I bet you think girls who wear short skirts and flirt at bars are at fault if they’re assaulted, too. 

Casting doubt that keeps her in an unsafe/untrusting relationship is not a good thing to be doing. I’d rather overreact and have her leave a relationship that could’ve been fine than end up continually hurt or doubting herself.

Post # 63
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Um, yeah, it sounds like he drugged your drink and punched you in the face, bee. Occam’s Razor…

Post # 64
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Helper bee

I would be worried. Who hasn’t rolled off of a bed at least once in their lives? I have NEVER heard of injuries like this. You need to see a doc now determine to the extent. A professional should be able to determine if you were punched  or not. Go now. This is very serious.

Post # 65
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

 

I still don’t understand how people can think that rolling off the bed can break your face.

That’s an extreme bury your head in the sand thought process. Acting like anyone who questions how exactly you BREAK your FACE in MULTIPLE locations including your jaw happens by falling out of bed is an overreaction on the part of the bees.

“Yeah, I KNOW you broke your face in multiple places and your husband let you bleed everywhere and didn’t take you to the hospital and he lied to his parents about what the Dr told you… I know you can’t remember breaking your face, but CHRIST, bee, you had some DRINKS! It’s YOUR fault!! Wondering HOW you broke your face is just stirring up unnecessary drama, just don’t drink again and you’ll be fine!!”

Come ON. Ughhhhhhh.

Post # 66
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’d be threatening to press charges against my husband and asking for a polygraph, just to see his reaction.

Post # 67
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - State Park

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Sansa85 :  I think we’re in complete agreement, not sure why your comment is directed to me?

Post # 68
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Blushing bee

PPs are right: falling off a bed should not cause injuries of such severity! I mean you fall maybe a couple of feet onto what I assume what have been carpeting, given it was a hotel, and that would not cause a black eye and multiple fractures. I was hit by a car and dented its hood with my head, and even I wasn’t in that sort of shape! These injuries are serious and don’t sound like they come from drunkenly tumbling off the bed. They sound worse than would even be possible IF OP’s husband had accidentally hit her head against the wall while carrying her. I think there is definitely something fishy about this; the whole thing is just very unsettling.

Also, like others have already suggested: get drug tested, immmediately! Ask your friends what they saw, etc. Try to piece this story together while you still can.

 

Post # 69
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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whoswho :  

This.  1000% this.  I read your post about how much force it takes to break facial bones.  Facts are stubborn things.

OP, you are not safe with your husband.  Please find a place to stay.

Post # 70
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

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sarahparkview :  

I was just adding to what you said, sorry for the confusion!

Post # 71
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - State Park

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Sansa85 :  Got it! Thanks! 

Post # 72
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Bumble Beekeeper

I fell out of the top bunk bed as a college student–the arm I was using to support myself was asleep–saw stars for a minute but didn’t break a thing. Based on the force data another Bee provided it is clear these injuries were not the result of “rolling” out of bed in a hotel room that was likely carpeted, even if bumping into a nightstand on the way. 

Post # 73
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

This is scary 🙁 especially the part where you told his parents you had a severe concussion and your husband said that wasn’t true! On top of the fact that he let you bleed all over the bed and didn’t think this was of big enough concern to take you to the hospital… What WOULD it take? I don’t know that I’d trust someone with (at best) so little common sense to look out for my health and wellbeing for the rest of my life. Yikes.

My bet is on he and his brother dropping you/otherwise (hopefully accidentally) injuring you and being too ashamed to fess up to it – but I’d be concerned even at that since he concealed it from you.

Post # 74
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2027

Seriously, if she was that drunk do you not think it is possible for the husband to have been that drunk as well? It would explain his actions on the wedding night as well as the next day. And why would he, or anyone else drug her? That’s just a ridiculous conclusion to jump to. 

It is also odd so many jump to calling her a victim, you do not know if she was a victim of anything other than her own stupid choices on the wedding night. 

As one bee posted there could be many different factors including, but not limited to, not eating the day of….which many brides do. Her size, she might have had drinks she has never had before. Just because she thinks she can handle her liquor “really well” doesn’t mean that there were not other factors that could have set this off. 

Most hotels I have stayed in have nightstands beside the bed, so it is very possible that she rolled off the bed and hit her face and caused this injury. 

Why did the husband have to make the adult decisions for her? Why did she have to call her mom to ask if she should go to the hospital? If she is not capable of taking care of herself, you’re right she needs an annulment, but not because of his actions. 

If the doctor said she had a concussion, there should be a report. Everytime I have had to take one of my children, my Fiance myself or any other family member or friend to the ER, not only did we receive a doctors report with diagnosis but also how we should continue or implement suggested treatments. This most definitely would have happened in the case of a concussion. 

Seriously, some of you bees are like the man who runs out of gas and immediately thinks they need a new engine sometimes. 

Post # 75
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Bumble bee

Gotta say I have fallen off the bed a fair few times passed out drunk. A few bruises and scratches at most, you must have hit a hard surface on a bedside table to do that kind of damage? Even then the injuries seem extreme. Maybe he was wasted too and whacked your face on the door carrying you in or dropped you somewhere and was feeling extremely guilty. Even so, doesn’t excuse not calling an ambulance 

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