Maybe this will help.
I am an Encore Bride (circa 1980)
First time round, we were just out of University and beginning our careers. We didn’t have oodles of money, and had a “Family Wedding” with about 100 Guests… my Parents paid for the Wedding Reception (and my dress), his Parents for the Rehearsal Dinner (and they flew in for a week from afar), they also bought as some gorgeous presents for our first home… and my Ex-H and I paid for everything else (Cocktail Hour, Champagne, Wine, Flowers, Church, Invitations, Thank You Gifts). My Ex-H handled the honeymoon (a bit of old fashioned male ego)
Our first night we stayed in a brand-name hotel, that was a bit upscale, but just a regular room. To be honest by the time we arrived (maybe around 1 AM) we were zonked. As my Hubby had a business association with this Hotel they had our room stocked with Flowers, Hors D’ouvres, a Fruit Basket and bottle of bubbly. I remember we had a shower, opened the bubbly, sniffed the rest, and fell into bed !!
Next morning, we enjoyed the Hotel Brunch, then packed up and headed out (we took the Flowers & Fruit Basket with us) and went over to my Parents Home to open presents (we had a lot of Out of Town Guests). They got the Flowers & Fruit Basket, and then we were off on our Honeymoon.
To be honest I loved our Hotel Room, but I never got to enjoy it… (or the nice Hotel it was in) because we were so zonked and rushed for time. It would have been nice to stay an additional day, and head out on our bigger wonderful Honeymoon Trip a day later and have allowed more time to relax / unwind
NOTE – Though it did provide GREAT MEMORIES… and that counts for something as well !! Every girl wants to look back on her Wedding Day and see it filled with beauty and nice memories from the time you get up till the time you go to sleep !!
The rest of our Honeymoon was far more relaxing, and we stayed in some super nice places (mostly Romantic Country Inns). My Ex-H did a good job planning out our Honeymoon Week… and all I have is good memories… from the Minute we said I Do till we got back home to our cute apartment. It was an awesome time.
This time round…
Mr TTR and I have planned things out a bit differently, because we are Eloping to a Destination Wedding (just the two of us saying I Do, gazing into each other’s eyes on a Beach overlooking theAtlantic Ocean)
In our case, we are getting married in one of our favourite locations… where we regularly rent a condo… so we have that squared away for about a week in total.
The night before the Wedding, my plan is to stay over in a nearby brand-name hotel, and get a great room (probably a Suite, as we have lots of Travel Points). This is where I will relax the night before my wedding, and enjoy my morning alone primping… maybe get a massage ! Before getting dressed for the Wedding and taking a limo to our Beach Location. After the short ceremony shore-side there will be pictures, and a drink at the Condo’s Bar (they are expecting us), and then the Limo will take us over to the Hotel that I’ve stayed in the night before, for a romantic ocean-front Dinner in their Dining Room. After which we’ll stay overnight in the same Hotel Suite that I was in the night before (BONUS no need to pack / move luggage etc)
The following day, is a Holiday. So we’ll be sleeping in and taking it easy in the morning… before heading back to our condo for a round of golf in the afternoon.
Our full-blown Honeymoon won’t get started until the third day… when we’ll head out from our Condo and make our way south for a week in the sunshine, and enjoy the beaches and golf in Florida. Then its home for a couple of weeks, before we jet off for a Caribbean Cruise. Lol, we like to joke that Honeymoon # 1 is his (golf) and Honeymoon # 2 is mine (pampering). Cannot wait !!
I think this is a far more leisurely plan than the first time round… Brides & Grooms really have no idea how EXHAUSTING all this Wedding Planning and “doing” can be. No point having valuable Honeymoon time (and money) being wasted because you are having a serious snooze (although to be fair, there isn’t anything wrong with that either… sleeping with your honey in an amazing bed on a lazy day is awesome)… just that having a rigid schedule can be really horrible (numerous Brides have said that it is BAD idea to jet off anywhere the day of your Wedding, or early the next day). I would have to agree.
Hope this helps,