Post # 1
I am having destination wedding in California. It is quite expensive and we are paying for the wedding ourselves. My fiance and I have rented a beach house where our Bridesmaids and Groomsmen will be staying too. We are taking the master suite and they will have the other open bedrooms.
We are only staying four nights. Should we get a separate hotel room for our wedding night? I don’t want it to be awkward for our friends, but honestly we will most likely just crash after our wedding and resume the romance when we return home.
What are your thoughts?
Post # 2
I guess it depends on your crowd, but I wouldn’t find it awkward at all. I was in a bridal party once with a similar set up…the bride and groom just rented a big house for us all to stay in, including on their wedding night. It honestly didn’t even occur to me to be skeeved out by that. What another couple does behind closed doors is none of my concern, wedding night or not!
Post # 3
I don’t see how it would be awkward either!
Post # 3
Yeah, I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. We stay with friends in the same house for vacations and have sex and I would assume they do too… I get that your wedding night is different, but I still don’t think it’s worth paying for a hotel if youre tight on cash.
Post # 5
Might be a few jokes, but I don’t think it’ll be too awkward depending on your friends
Post # 6
Unless you’re screaming and pounding the walls, I think it will be fine.
Post # 7
I’d prioritize the hotel room in your place but not for the reason you are suggesting. There is just something special about taking some time for yourselves after the wedding whether it’s a two week honeymoon or a weekend or even a night away.
Post # 8
I agree with PP about not being so much worried about the awkwardness as I would be on missing out on that bubble of alone time immediately following the wedding. I would consider a hotel at least for the wedding night and then rejoin your friends for the remaining days.
Post # 9
Agreed. I would get a hotel room rather than sharing a house with a bunch of people. You don’t get a lot of alone time as a couple on your wedding day so sex or no sex it’s nice to have time to yourselves on your wedding night.
Post # 10
From my experience, our wedding night was the first time we really got to look at each other and take in that we were married! It was a night I will never forget and it had nothing to do with sex (well, that too LOL). You spend your wedding day mostly with friends and family, wedding night and honeymoon for me were too intimate and magical and didn’t even want to think about the outside world.
Post # 11
Im with you on this one! I’d say get a hotel room with late check out spend the night and next day alone together! Tell the hotel its your wedding night they might make it extra nice for you
Post # 12
I also agree with getting the hotel. After the wedding you’ll be exhausted. It probably won’t be until the next morning when you have the time and energy to reflect on events that happened during your wedding. I think having time alone, no rush, no distractions, to share what you remember and laugh about the funny and smile about the beautiful things is priceless. Every memory you recount and discuss is more likely to imprint more deeply. That time recounting your day together will help you remember all of it more clearly for the rest of your life and and that time relaxing and having no one to answer to is precious.
Post # 13
Totally depends what you like. I don’t think it is awkward at all (you are all adults, whether you have sex or not is not typically at the forefront of peoples minds or certainly not concerning to them.) Whether you want alone time or not is up to you. My fiancee and I are very extroverted and so we did this (we had our family and friends all stay with us in a big rented house for the wedding and then rented a different house with all our friends for three days after the wedding) adn we LOVED it. We see each other often, we don’t get a lot of tiem to spend with the peope we love in our broader community. So we didnt’ want alone time. Whether you do depends on you and your spouses preferences.
Post # 14
I don’t know many people who actually have sex on their wedding night as they usually are so exhausted from the day that they immediately pass out.
I would only consider a hotel room if you plan on having some crazy loud boisterous sex.
Post # 15
I would get the hotel. Enjoy a nice, private breakfast together the next day as husband and wife, and rejoin your friends later in the day.