(Closed) Wedding night advice?

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Female condoms can be better than male condoms, or I know it’s an older style, but a diaphragm, when used properly with spermicial lube is fantastic 🙂 I definitely wouldn’t try just the spermicide by itself.

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Ask your gyno, they are the experts. As with the PP, a diaphragm might be best

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Is this your first time? I am assuming so based on your birth control question. I only ask because if it is, the advice you receive may be different. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My Darling Husband actually surprised me with the wedding night activities. When we got back to the room he helped me get out of my dress, I quickly showered and changed in to langere. He had champaign and fruit waiting. We also had a hot tub on our roof of our hotel room. We went up there with our champaign. It was super romantic. I will always remember that night even though it wasnt our first time. I’m glad he took charge. 

P.s. you should def talk to your gyno bc of ur allergies. A doctor is a best person to give u advice or prescribe you something that your body will be compatible with. 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 11 months ago by  bananchik.
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

Nontra:  I would speak to a doctor regarding birth control. Female condoms and diaphragms are not very reliable and so would not be my choice unless combined with natural family planning (which you need to be doing for about 3-6 months before it’s considered safe). Methods like the pill are much more reliable, and because there are so many different types there is one to suit most people. Again though I’d start with it 3-6 months before the wedding to give your body time to adjust. 

With regards tips for the night,I’m guessing this is your first time? In which case I would say to take it slow, build up with plenty of foreplay, and don’t expect it to be amazing on your first go. I’d also recommend masturbating so that you get to know your own body and what works for you, as that will help to make it more pleasurable. I also wouldn’t feel like you HAVE to have sex on your wedding night, as that puts pressure on you (this applies regardless of if it’s your first time); you might be tired, or just not in the mood, and that’s fine. We didn’t have sex on our wedding night as we didn’t go to bed until 6.30am, and had been up for pushing 24 hours; however, we stayed at the venue the following night too, so we had sex then. 

ETA:just seen your follow-up post. I would definitely speak to your doctor as there are a whole host of methods out there, and at least one should be suitable. NFP as I mentioned is also an option if all else fails, but it requires a fair amount of ‘work’ (charting your temperature and cervical mucus, etc) so wouldn’t be my first choice; but when used properly it’ s about 99% effective, so much safer than the femidom or diaphragm. 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 11 months ago by  barbie86.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Nontra:  The plan is to fall right to sleep. My Fiance already said it’s ok if he does not get some that night that the next night will be reserved for that lol. He is CRAZY!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Ok well since it isn’t your first i won’t say ‘don’t expect much’ :0p I can’t help on the birth control front. I can’t use condoms and my body isn’t too happy when I do, so I’ve alwaya used BCP. Generally there should be a pill to suit everyone, may just take some experimenting and chats with your doc to figure out which will work for you. 

In regard to making to special, I’d recommend planning a bit (ie nice lingerie etv) but not toooo much as you may be too tired. Def have a shower first! Ita amazing what that and a sexy change can do to both your moods. 

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