(Closed) Wedding night , what should I do?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I am sure if you have waited this long then waiting an additional 30 minutes or so for you to shower and freshen up and change into lingerie won’t be an issue.  Just tell your husband that you want to put on something special for him and he’ll be fine.  🙂

Post # 5
46674 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think both of you would probably enjoy a shower after you get to the hotel room,. If you want to shower together, you could always ask to use the bathroom first, and remove your shapewear when still by yourself. If not, showering separately is a great idea. You can have a glass of wine or champagne together after you shower to relax and set the mood.

If it’s super hot, you may regret the shapewear. What style is your dress? Will anyone really notice your thighs?

Post # 6
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’d wear it! 1st off there is NOTHING sexy about taking a bridal gown off- its pretty comical. (Unless ur wearing a silk skin tight sheath dress).  there can be a lot of unfastening to be done


yeah I’d shower. Depending on how you are wearing your hair- you may need to shower before going to bed. Updos are hard to take out/sleep on with out washing. Plus the sweat factor. ick def shower! 



Post # 8
1357 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Agree with @SparkleBee11! No matter what, it’s going to take some doing to get out of everything, so wear whatever you want. If it’s your first time, you’ll want to take things slowly and work up to sex anyway so that you are both comfortable and relaxed.

Post # 9
1511 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@hyruleloves:  I can’t really relate to the virgin on the wedding night thing, but I’ll throw in my $0.02 anyway.  Smile

I think you should wear the shapewear if it will make you more comfortable for your wedding pictures.  As you said, you don’t expect to have sex the moment you get back to your hotel, so that shouldn’t be an issue.

I would definitely recommend a shower for both of you if you’re getting married in Puerto Rico!  You obviously don’t have to shower together (that could potentially be awkward if you’ve never been naked in front of one another before), but it will make you both feel better (more confident, sexier, etc.). 

Good luck and have fun!

Post # 10
934 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@hyruleloves:  Wear your shapewear if you really want to! You will have a chance to get out of it once you get back to the hotel room, as you will for sure want to get freshened up before doing anything. I don’t think it is unrealistic at all!

Good luck on the wedding night business…it will be fun! Lots of lube, lots of foreplay, and go slow! 

Post # 11
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Wear the shaper if it’ll make you feel more comfortable. You will definitely need a shower! PR is soooo hot & humid.  You’ll want to be refreshed for your wedding night. 

Post # 13
7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@angelinthesnowxo:  Yeah as a wedding night virgin myself, I’ll say that in the shower is not where I wanted us see each other naked for the first time. And since he got excited pretty quick, I think it would have spoiled things.

I had a very quick wash, and changed then into fresh, sexy lingerie. So I suggest you do something similar.

Post # 14
1511 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@paula1248:  Haha I honestly still don’t really enjoy showering with my fiance.  I’ve never really been into showering with a significant other, though … I usually end up getting water splashed all over my face because I’m always so much shorter than the guy I’m with (it tends to roll off their body and right into my eyes, nose, and mouth which is far from sexy).  And shower sex?  Blah!  Overrated!  Now if I were about the same height as my fiance, that might make things better … But the reality is that it’s just uncomfortable and awkward.  No thanks!  Haha.

Post # 15
317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@hyruleloves:  Honestly, wear the shapewear.  This company is awesome and if your things rub together (like mine do) the knee length panty/shorts are awesome because they prevent chaffing.  I think it will be perfectly fine for the two of you to take turns showering before becoming intimate although don’t be surprised if the two of you are too exhausted to do anything that night. Lol I know someone who was so exhausted (as was her new hubby) the night of the wedding that they didn’t do anything until the morning after. Lol

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