(Closed) Wedding night , what should I do?

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 17
593 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I say wear the shapeware! If you are worried about your thights and butt, you will feel much more comfortable all night being “tucked in”. If yout think your fiance will be ready to go the second you get back to the room, you can always run to the restroom before your exit and slip the shapewear off really quick. But truthfully, you ARE going to be sweaty and there is nothing sexy about that! So I would just each take your own shower really quick, get nice and clean and go from there. 

Post # 19
1070 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree with previous posters, wear the shapewear and just undress and shower seperately.  Take it slow and have fun!

Post # 20
416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

FWIW (not virginal on my wedding night), I wore a big dress and changed into an afterparty dress.  (Granny-panties all day so as not to get a wedgie, cute undies with the smaller dress).  On getting back to our place, we were both so sweaty and exhausted that we immediately showered (together), then laid down, then eventually got around to fooling around.

So I say do what makes you comfortable.  You can always change into something cute later.

Post # 21
260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’d say wear it if makes you feel more comfortable. Extra time that night won’t really matter in the long run and I’m sure your first night together will still be special 🙂

Post # 23
1949 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

my dress was similar, and I was goign to wear shape wear too, but then I got thinking that if/when I had to pee, rather than just lifting up my dress to pee, i’d have to completely take it off, then take off the shape wear to pee, then put it all back on. Seemed like too much hassel to me.

After the wedding was over, Darling Husband and I were both hot/sweaty/exhausted so we jumped in the jetted tub for like an hour first before we got down to business.

I wouldn’t worry about having to take it off. If you’re going to feel better about yourself by wearing it, then wear it.

Trust me, Darling Husband isn’t going to care what he’s taking off of you! He married you because he loves you!

Post # 24
8037 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@hyruleloves:  Or take a bath together… that’s always fun.

But yeah, absolutely shower first. I’m no virgin and I would definitely shower after wearing a wedding dress all day!

Post # 25
8439 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@hyruleloves:  My Fiance isn’t going anywhere near me until after I get a shower.  Between the heat, the dancing, and shapewear you’ll be sweating like crazy; so a shower is a definite must.  I’m sure your husband will understand, and appreciate, it.

Post # 26
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i think we skiped the whole wedding night fun. both were way too exhausted

Post # 27
1863 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Our wedding day was 80+ degrees.  I didn’t wear shapewear at all, just a longline strapless, but I was still plenty sweaty.  We got to our hotel room and he helped me take my hair down (75 bobby pins!) and then I went and changed while he decorated our room with rose petals and candles. We were both virgins too and it gave both of us a few minutes alone to process the day and get ready for the next step.

Post # 28
8575 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

@anotherbee:  Some of the shapewear has a hole for you to pee!

Post # 29
226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@hyruleloves:  Sweetheart – don’t stress! You will be fine. You are in control of that evening and don’t forget it. Make it memorable, not uncomfortable.

When you get back to your hotel room, ask him (in your sweetest voice) to unzip the back of your dress. Hold it up and walk into the bathroom. Tell him you’ll be out in a couple minutes and to enjoy a drink. Bring your special sexy outfit with you. Change and hop into a QUICK!! shower then slip into your sexy outfit. Even hum to yourself. He will be wondering what is going on in there… then come out all ready for him.

It’s your pace! Don’t forget it! 🙂 enjoy your day!

Post # 30
44 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

@hyruleloves:  If you are having a reception afterwards, it is not uncommon for ladies to slip away near the end and change into a “getaway” dress before making their exit from the reception.  That way, your bridesmaids can help you get out of your dress, and you mom or friend can take it to the cleaners or home for you.  This also means that you don’t have to worry about big man hands messing up any fine buttons or hooks, or getting a zipper stuck and having to be cut out….definately not my idea of a romantic experience.  Make sure you communicate with him about your concerns, and I’m sure he will be more than glad to make you as comfortable as possible.  My pre-marital counelor recommended a book called “Intended for Pleasure” that had some great tips on ways to help keep you from being in pain too.  It’s written by a Christian medical doctor, so it has a few referrences, but seems to be well written and scientifically based.  I’m sure that you two will have a wonderful wedding day experience.  Just be you, that who your man loves!

Post # 31
5659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We showered, when you’re in that kind of heat, the last thing you want to do (especially the first time you have sex together) is jump into bed all sweaty and smelly. My best friend got married in October in the cold and they did the same, because wearing the dress you sweat either way. And if you want to use sexy lingerie, you’re gonna have to undress yourself anyway so what does it matter what’s underneath!

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