Post # 1
Is it tacky or rude to invite people to the wedding but not the reception. We are paying per person for the recpetion and we are at 200 people. We can not afford to invite anyone else.
So can I invite them to the wedding ONLY???
Post # 3
Personally, I would feel a little slighted to be invited to a ceremony only…
Post # 4
I don’t see anything wrong with that, as long as it’s informal. Like “Hey, if you want you can come to my wedding ceremony!” No written invitation or anything like that.
Post # 5
that’s extremely rude. you’re telling people they’re not good enough for you to spend your money on.
Post # 6
@DeathByDesign: I can see it working if it’s casual like that.
My best friend did that to my parents and they were ok with it. I was in the wedding party so I had to be there WAY early. My husband was getting a ride with my parents so she was just like… you should just come in and watch then!
I’m just saying I’d be upset if I received a regular invite only to arrive to find out there’s more part that I’m not invited for.
Post # 7
Yes, I personally believe that it may be considered tacky or rude. If you can’t invite them to the reception, you can’t invite them to the ceremony. Plus, people tend to follow one another from the ceremony to the reception, and you may feel really awkward if you have unexpected people showing up at the reception when they were only supposed to attend the ceremony.
I understand that sometimes people have very intimate ceremonies and larger receptions, and that is generally accepted. The reverse, however, typically isn’t.
Post # 8
Wow!! I really dont know what to do so many people keep saying I cant wait for your wedding , I really would like to be there. I am so confused because we can not invite everyone who would like to be there. I am sure there are events that my Fiance and I havent been invited too.
I was going to order some book markers and cookies for the church for people who will not be able to make the reception.
UGHHHH!! I am so confused should I be happy this time in my life 🙁
Post # 9
Yes, I would be very offended. In my eyes, it is just like asking for a gift, but not wanting to spend any money on food or alcohol. I would not come.
Post # 10
Yeah its rude. You can just have a cake/drink reception after the ceremony and only dinner for closer firends.
Post # 11
As a guest, I’d feel insulted if I were invited to the ceremony, and then excluded from the reception.
Post # 12
In a word, yes it’s rude. What you are saying (albeit unintentionally) by doing so is: “You’re good enough to come and celebrate us at our ceremony, but not good enough for us to want to treat you at our reception. And by the way, may we have a gift?”
Post # 13
I think its fine if you have a mini reception for everyone.
Post # 14
@KevinsWife: if people really want to come, I don’t see why it’s so terrible to casually tell them they could come to your ceremony if they really want to. If they don’t want to go to only the ceremony, then they can just decline. *shrugs*
I think it’s especially fine if you will have juice/cookies after the ceremony for everyone.
Post # 15
I honestly would be pretty irritated if I came for the ceremony but couldn’t stay for the reception. I understand you are trying to include people in your day anyway you can, but it can come off hurtful.
ETA: I guess if you said to them up front “As much as we would love to have everyone at both the ceremony and the reception, unfortunately we can’t. You are welcome to come to the ceremony if you would like to watch us be married.” Or something like that, I could understand. If I got a formal invite with no mention of just being invited to the ceremony, that’s where I would be irritated
Post # 16
I would never do this. I think it’s a big no no. If you aren’t able to invite them to the reception then don’t invite them at all.