Post # 1
You guys have been so supportive since I join this forum and I’ve always appreciated your feedback and comment regarding my wedding planning questions :).
Today my question is about the reception: it is going to be a 4-hour event inside a ballroom. We are expecting 70 guests attending. Both my husband and I are introvert – we enjoy watching movies, reading and playing board games during leisure time. I think majority of our relatives and friends are somewhat introverted as well, we just don’t party that much.
So besides food, toast, wedding cake cutting, throwing bouquet and dancing, what else can we do to make it 4 hours? Lol I think we could’ve done everything above in 2 hours.
Thanks so much for your advices!
Post # 2
I am of the belief you don’t need to have a bunch of activities to fill a reception. My reception wasn’t a huge party atmosphere, but we had music and mingling. Our reception was probably closer to 3 hours long. If your guests are introverts, I wouldn’t come up with games or activities for them to feel like they have to participate in.
Post # 3
Thanks for replying! FutureMrsBex :
I would say most of our relatives are relatively reserved because of the asian culture we grew up in. A lot of my friends made in the US are more outgoing and enjoy partying. Overall I would say 60% introverts and 40% extroverts?
Post # 4
Honestly I think if it is a well hosted event (good food and good drink in a comfortable space), you won’t have any problem. People will chat and mingle and enjoy themselves, or when they need a break they will take it.
Post # 5
- Wedding: Scotts ~ Walnut Creek
bespectacled1 : <<< All of this.
Good food, good music and good company are enough for adults to have a good time. Everything you listed is sufficient for four hours. 🙂 Don’t overthink it.
Post # 6
FH and I are also introverts and our receptions sound similar (mine is 5 hours) so I think you have enough to entertain your guests. I was also thinking of throwing in what I would call a “Sweetheart Dance” and invite others to come dance with a loved one, whether it be a partner or a family member, just to get a few minutes where the attention isn’t all on us, lol.
Post # 7
I am introverted and I actually like games because it gives me a purpose or activity. Maybe provide a game corner with cornhole and decks of cards?
Post # 8
Do what you like. I.e., if you like board games, have board games.
But I also agree with PPs that you don’t really *need* anything else.
Post # 9
My husband and I are both introverts, and our reception lasted from 5-11pm.
Good food, good company, and good music are key. Set up tables so people know each other, we had a relatives’ table for the groom’s side, friends/relatives’ table for my side, a work friend table, church friend table, etc. We didn’t have a DJ, we just set up a bunch of our favourite jazz playlists (which we received quite a few compliments on). Having a small reception (we had 40pp), allowed us to go around and mingle with everyone. We also just let everyone else do their own talking, and didn’t interrupt the “flow”, so to speak, with activities, minus a few toasts.
Something that really helped (and I know this can vary from reception hall to reception hall), was having our courses come out on time, without a significant gap between courses (15-20 minutes tops).
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2019 - Australia
I think board games are a great idea if that’s what interests you!
Post # 11
Since it is in a ballroom all that is needed is good food, good drink and good music! That is an adult party, a bunch of planned activities or games just makes me think of a children’s party.
Post # 12
A lot of commenters are saying good music. How do you discern good music?
So far I have a few country songs saved from the year we met. I also like edm and my fiance likes hip hop. I’m very confused on how to build a playlist others with like!!
Post # 13
Games, a craft/coloring corner (for kids but some adults might “help” the kids?), maybe a low key scavenger hunt? I have fond memories of striking up a conversation with someone else while we were both helping our nephews with a silly little craft project.
I went to a wedding one time that had a cocktail hour scavenger hunt where we were given bingo cards designed to make us mingle. Stuff like “Find a person who has twins”, “Find someone born in the same month as you”, “Find someone who went to grade school with the groom”. I’ve also seen versions of this done at the tables for dinner, as an addition to the menu. “3 people at this table have the same hobby,” stuff like that.
Maybe low key activities to watch, like a caricature artist?
Post # 14
happyeyesbride : Good music is energetic, not offensive, and classic. You could throw in a couple rap songs, but you don’t want to blow Grandma’s eardrums out – save the rap for late in the evening. While Grandma and children are there, keep the music clean, but happy. And add in classics – people love dancing to songs while they are singing along. Both new music and old music hold classics – everything from “Fly Me to the Moon” by Frank Sinatra to “Perfect” by Ed Sheeran.