Post # 1
I’m having a hard time finding a resonably priced officiant. We do not need a dress rehearsal or much consultation before and plan for our ceremony to be very short so I’m having a hard time wrapping my mind around the idea of paying somebody $300 for 10 minutes. I just wanted an idea of what other people are paying for an officiant and where you found yours.
My FI’s Dad jokingly offered to get ordained on the internet and I’m suriously considering it…he would do it if we asked. I just don’t know if it would be akward to have a family member do our wedding.
Post # 3
We paid about $300 for the ability to customize our ceremony somewhat and the ceremony was about 30 minutes long. Depending on the state, you might be able to do it yourself. Where we got married in CO, you can legally marry yourselves.
Post # 4
We paid a $400 donation to our temple for our rabbi. That is the amount that they charge if you’re not a member, but it’s free since my parents belong there.
We also didn’t do a rehearsal, and we did have 2 meetings with him before the ceremony (one to talk about the ceremony and one to talk about our relationship), and the ceremony was very short.
Yes, it’s a lot of money, but it was important for me to get married by our rabbi b/c hubby and I met at temple, and we’ll be raising our children at that temple. It was well worth the money for me b/c he did such an amazing ceremony and made me feel very comfortable.
Post # 5
We had a friend perform our wedding ceremony – he got ordained online for I think $25. We wrote our own ceremony then just gave it to him. We didnt do any rehearsing of the actual ceremony just of the set up of where people should be. He performed our ceremony SO well I am SO SO SO happy we did it this way!
Post # 6
One of the officiants herer wanted $650! There was a $50 savings for no rehearsal. Wow, what a discount.
Thankfully, my good friend begged to be our officiant. She got certified online, and I think she will do a wonderful job. I can’t wait.
Post # 7
Officiants are super expensive.
Have you tried calling local town halls for a list of judges and clerks that officiate? Those are sometimes cheaper.
P.S. My friend and I both had a friend/family member ordained online (pretty instantaneous). it was great! LOVED it and so glad we went that route. And it’s completely legit because we both got our licenses!
Post # 8
Thanks for the advice. I would prefer a friend over say my Fiance dad but I have a hard time thinking of a good friend to do it. Most of my friends would be akward to have up there and they would probably think so too. Half my friends are still college students so they are young party type girls and that’s not exactly what I want my officiant to be.
I will look into a judge or clerk maybe that would do it too.
I just don’t understand why it’s so much, and I know I shouldn’t put a price limit on having a nice ceremony but I want to do some things cheaper since our reception venue was more then we initially wanted to spend.
Post # 9
@Carpie: I am in the same boat. Officiants are asking about 350. One thing to consider is – If you do not have an officiant, you cannot get married. The caterer may not show, the cake may fall over, or you may lose your shoes, but despite these, you can still get married. The officiant needs to be there to get married, so why go cheap on one of the most important elements? I guess maybe I am that way because the actual ceremony and exchanging of vows is what is most important to me. I would give up the big reception, the dj, the cake, if I had to choose between those and marrying my love. Having someone get their certificate online seems a little illegit to me. I would like someone who has done several wedding, and is a true officiant. Good luck!