(Closed) Wedding on a Budget, Tacky or Savvy?

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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Futurecalise:  At some point, we all need to stop letting our feelings be hurt by other people’s opinions on things like wedding choices.

Another thing we need to learn is not to put down other’s choices by thoughtless remarks like that person made. She hasn’t yet learned that you don’t put yourself up by putting someone else down.

Simply respond “Well, it’s perfect for us.”

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’ve learned in the planning process that everyone has an opinion, and in the end only two matter – you and your FI’s. If you are having the wedding you want, awesome! If they don’t like your wedding, they need not come and share the happiness with you.

Congratulations, and happy planning.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2015

It’s your wedding and you shouldn’t worry about pleasing other people.  Everyone gets too wrapped up in the wedding and they forget the most important part.  The marriage!  You are being so smart,and your plan sounds perfectly fine to me and so smart.  Be savy and marry the love of your life 🙂

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ll say this, the absolute cheapest wedding I’ve ever been to was also one of the nicest, most personal, and most fun weddings I’ve ever been to. Price tag has no equivalency to a wedding being special. 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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Futurecalise:  If you are happy with your plans, enjoy your decisions and look forward to your beautiful wedding day! I found that the best way not to get unwelcomed advice was to just clam up about my plans and ideas. What they don’t know, they cannot comment on.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

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Futurecalise:  That’s a rude comment. Who cares about this other person’s taste? It’s not their wedding. Do what’s right for you and your Fiance, and don’t let others get you down.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Most of the weddings I hear about family having in the 70s and 80s, they were on penny budgets. Weddings weren’t the big thing they are now. My mom and dad had a Maid/Matron of Honor and a best man, and there were no matchy dresses. Her dress was simple and inexpensive. It was a church wedding with a small lunch after.

Ignore people. They’re jerks. And everyone and their cousin has an opinion on how you should plan your wedding because they got married once, or they went to three weddings last year, etc. etc. You just have to smile and say “well it’s our wedding and this is what’s making us happy.”

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I am somewhat in the same boat as you. I am 22 right now and I will turn 23 a week after our wedding. We are using silk flowers and I am making our center pieces and many other things. We are also paying for the wedding ourselves. I agree with what everyone else has said, it is your day and who cares what others think! Just enjoy your day 🙂 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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Futurecalise:  That’s a very rude comment. Good for you and your Fiance for spending what you can afford. We just attended a low budget wedding – it was on a Friday, at a restaurant, in a small room, the food was blah but you know what? We had more fun at that wedding than at a $$$ country club wedding we went to last fall that probably cost $50K. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I haven’t had my own wedding yet, but I’ve been to a few and in my experience it’s definitely not the money you put into your wedding that makes it special, but the feelings that come across. I mean, if you have the money to spend 250 bucks per centrepiece, then all power to you, but that’s not going to be what people will remember of the day. On a side note: personally I LOVE DIY weddings, since people have put so much love and effort into them and they’re so personal and individual.

At the end of the day you should have the wedding that you want and that fits your wallet. Everyone who matters will be happy for you and everyone else can… you know.

Congratulations, I’m sure you’ll have a beautiful wedding!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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Futurecalise:  “for their tastes” 

 

We are all different. Do what is right for you and your SO. As long as you’re happy, own it and don’t let someone comments detract from your happiness! 🙂 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

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Futurecalise:  Ignore them.  I, for one, love simple.  We are spending more on our combined wedding bands than we are our actual wedding.  Plus, you won’t be entering marriage in debt!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Cheerfully inform the person who thinks that YOUR wedding (which sounds clever and modestly planned and SENSIBLE to me)

is “too simple” that you will sorely miss him or her being there and that you hope he’ll have a divine time at the regatta races.

Then invite someone who will be much more fun to fill Ol’ Snobby Pants’ place in your guest list.

Wishes for the most WONDERFUL wedding ever!!!!

 

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Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I echo all of the sentiments.  everyone has an opinion and that is all it is.  They arent paying for it.  Here is what I learned, don’t share with everyone what you are doing, they may not see your vision, just let them be suprised on that day.

I could have afforded to spend way more on my wedding, I make the money to do so, but I am a little bit older (well alot older.. smile) and for me I didnt see the need to spend an arm and a leg when the entire day is over in the blink of an eye.  It was a beautiful day on a budget and I have wonderful memories.  Most of my decorations came from the venue… the only real flowers were on the tables, my bouquet was brooch boquet. 

So enjoy, its your day and try not to let other opinions make you feel bad.

 

Best of luck, and hope you have an AWESOME wedding and a wonderful life witth your new hubby.

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