Wedding on a Thursday

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2019 - City, State

Thursday would probably be very difficult for people to make it out. Sunday during a long weekend would likely make it a lot easier for guests. 

Post # 3
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Wannabee

Thursday may be difficult for a number of your guests. Some may also have plans for the long holiday weekend. Sunday may be best or even not a long holiday weekend.

If its a desitnation wedding the long holiday weekend is great.

Post # 4
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Honey bee

I’m not a fan.  I also think it depends on what holiday you’re referring to.  

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2022

Most of my friends had/will have this dilemma. I’ve seen Jewish weddings either on Saturdays after sundown (so maybe a winter wedding, where the sun sets early) or on Sundays. I’ve never seen a Thursday wedding for people of any faith. That would be very difficult for your guests. If I were you, I would go with Sunday, and choose a less popular month if you’re worried about the cost.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I got married on a Thursday.  It was in between Christmas and new year and a lot of people where I live don’t work that week anyway so it worked well.

I know others who have got married mid-week not at a holiday time. Where I’m from its not that unusual. So it wouldn’t be a problem – whoever wants to come makes arrangements to come, some people just come for the evening, and if someone can’t come then no one gets too upset. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Thursday (and Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday) weddings are a pain in the ass for a lot of people. I’d expect a lot of declines, and probably a decent amount of behind the scenes grumbling if you do a Thursday wedding. 

Every Jewish wedding I’ve been to has been on Sunday. It would be better to do a non-holiday Sunday than the Thursday, if you’re wanting a cheaper option. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

My best friend is getting married on a Thursday in June. I think it depends on how dedicated your guests are to making it to your wedding. So far, for her it hasn’t been an issue at all because majority of people in her life have no problem taking the Friday off after the wedding. If you have a bunch of friends and family that you know wouldn’t make the effort or unable to,  you might have a lower turnout. But I personally don’t mind it. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I find weddings on Friday and Sunday to be very inconvenient for guests. I do understand the need or want for them, but if I’m being blunt. That said, I’d be very irritated as a guest to be invited to a Thursday wedding. That is a lot of time off work needed to attend depending on travel. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

We just got a STD from one of my cousin’s for a Wednesday wedding next year. Thankfully I will be on maternity leave, but it will mean my husband using his annual leave. I do think it’s quite inconsiderate. 

That being said, my other cousin got married on a Thursday a couple of years back and we booked the Thursday and Friday off work and made a long weekend of it (it wasn’t a bank holiday). 

The Wednesday wedding is totally different because even booking the day after off means going back to work on the Friday for most guests. If the Friday after the day you are planning would be a bank holiday then I’d say it’s fine. Most people will just make it a long weekend 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I’d prefer Sunday if a holiday weekend unless that holiday was Christmas or thanksgiving. 

Thursday may work if everybody is local (within 1 hour drive). Otherwise you’d be asking them to potentially miss 2 or more days of work which isn’t nice. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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cq123 :  Jewish weddings are typically on Sundays.  OP, you can have your wedding on any day that works for you but you need to be gracious about declines as I think a Thursday evening will work for few people.   That said I went to a lovely Thursday night restaurant wedding.  It was very low key though and did not have the typical wedding reception vibe. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - NH Squam Lake Elopement

Why are Friday’s and Saturday’s out of the question? Soon to be fiancé is Jewish and we will not be having a Jewish wedding…but he’s never heard of that being a thing. But to answer your question…I’m grumbling about the two Friday weddings I have to go to this year…I would probably say no to a Thursday wedding. Not everyone has the long weekend so you can’t assume it’s simple for everyone to attend based on that being a reason. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Because of Shabbat, I’ve never heard of a Jewish wedding happening any time other than a Sunday because of it. Perhaps your fiancés family is from a reformed or more progressive synagogue? 

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Post # 15
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Honey bee

Even progressive synagogues don’t allow weddings from sundown Friday to sundown Saturday.

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