Post # 1
The wedding is schedule for 12.12.12 which was calculated out as the MOST auspicious(good luck) day for the wedding. The problem is that never mind its during the winter but it lands on a Wednesday. Also its the last week of classes for those in grad/undergrad school. I just want to know how you guys feel about attending a wedding that falls in the middle of the work week. The bride is worried about a low turn out…
Post # 3
Mid december is a hectic time for alot of people. I imagine those who matter most will make an effort to be there.
Post # 4
Agree w PP. Those that want to be there will. Most people won’t travel via air because it starts to get expensive then. Some friends may not come because of finals. You will have less than normal but people that want to be there will make time!
Post # 5
mine is on a weekday, but it’s a destination wedding, so people are going to have to take time off work anyway (and flights are cheaper Mon-Thurs)… haven’t heard anyone complaining about it being on a weekday.
yes I would assume a very low turnout, which can be a good thing if you want to have a small wedding, but you should set a date that works for people who are most important to you.
Personally I wouldn’t think of having a weekday wedding where we live just because our friends have regular jobs.
Post # 6
@Kura: Honestly, I wouldnt be too happy about it. Taking time off that close to the holidays is tough for me, but as long as I didnt have to travel far then I would most likely go. However, I wouldnt be able to drink or party as much as I normally would at a wedding.
Post # 7
Turnout will most definately be worse than a more traditional day. A lot of people don’t like taking time off from work for a wedding, and those who do make it will most likely leave earlier than they would otherwise because many of them work the following day.
How’d I do it? I wouldn’t miss school for it, so it depends on the schedual. If I did come, I wouldn’t take time off, so if the ceremony was during the day I wouldn’t come, but would make it to the reception, but then I would probably leave early.
Post # 8
1. They should probably cut some slack when people can’t attend. If they’re from out of town and have to fly, there’s a good chance they’ll miss two days of work, which is too much for some people. That wraps up a huge amount of money into them attending your wedding, and while it’s nice to think they should just because it’s your wedding, I feel like there’s a responsibility on the hosts to either make it convenient or to be understanding when they don’t and people can’t attend.
2. Especially because of finals, the “those who want to make it will” argument won’t apply. Personally, I had to miss my cousin’s wedding because it was during my finals week senior year. As much as you love someone, you can’t blow four years of education off to attend one event.
3. If that’s what they want to do, more power to them!
Post # 9
I would only go to a weekday wedding if it was a very close family member or friend. If It was someone that I knew but didn’t talk to on a regular basis I would probably decline. But I guess it is all about what the bride wants and envisions. If she would like a quite simple ceremony with immediate family and be able to save some money because of the day then it’ll be perfect.
Post # 10
wow thank you for all the comments!
You guys bring of plently of good points. I doubt many people would actually take a day off for the wedding and those who do probably won’t stay long.
I am currently talking to the bride and I do not know what got into her head but some how she wants to have the wedding out of NYC so it will be cheaper.
Originally they were going to have it in Flushing(Queens).
A church ceremony and then going to the reception resturant which is in walkable distance (20min walk) since this was the most finacially feasible. They are working with a 10K-15K max budget. Guest list avg 150 ppl.
Now she wants to have it the ceremony and reception at a single location. Many of the venues in the metro area are outside their price range so now she is looking at Long Island or New Jeresey, both of which is a fair distance away. Even for a wedding, would you guys be willing to take a day off and traveling far for it? Also does any of you lovely lady know if there is any venues that will hold around 150ppl for less than 10K?
Post # 11
@Kura: I would be really shocked if they have 150 guests for a Wednesday night wedding. Especially if the majority of guests need to travel for it.
Post # 12
@Kura: I would travel to an NYC weekday wedding because I live here and it wouldn’t be a hassel. Your friend should poke around these boards for advice on budget NYC weddings. Hunny, NJ and LI aren’t going to yield significant savings over an off the beaten path NYC restaurant wedding. She should have it at Kefi on the upper west side. Weeknight, they would probably be willing to work w her.
Post # 13
@heather25: Agreed, I doubt NJ or LI can be that much cheaper than NYC.
@Kura: Even if it were an evening wedding, as a student in the middle of finals around that time I wouldn’t be able to make it. Also, with my job, it would be pretty difficult to get off so close to Christmas, so I think this is really limiting the guests that can come. Even if she has 150 invited, I highly doubt she needs a venue that big because I think the turnout won’t be really high, unfortunately. If all that is okay with your friend though, then I always say, my wedding, I’ll do what I want, your wedding, you do what you want.
Post # 14
@Kura: I’m not sure about a weekday wedding but I have seen some places that you could do a 150 person wedding for 15k in New Jersey. Hell, I’m looking to have a wedding for 120 for under 15k.
Also, to echo some of the other pp’s… I wouldn’t be too harsh on those who cannot make a weekday wedding. If you’re starting a new job, working in retail, or have school, you’re not going to be able to take off no matter how much advanced notice the couple gives.
Post # 15
@Bostongrl25: Agreed. A weekday wedding in December? I’d expect the parents, maybe the siblings (although I would not have taken off of school for my brothers’ weddings during finals week), and maybe retired age people like grandparents and old aunts/uncles. Anyone working or in school will probably decline for good reason.
Post # 16
The most important people will go. Your mom, dad, siblings, close friends. But I wouldn’t be to happy about it and depending on how close we are I probably wouldn’t attend. I’ll still send you a gift though.