Post # 1
I am Jewish and my family is fairly observant, so my SO and I cannot get married on a Friday or Saturday evening. I hate the idea of having a Sunday or Thursday wedding, unless there is a holiday the following day where most guests have off. So, my question to all you Bees is, which holiday weekend would you prefer to attend a wedding?
I should also mention that 95% of guests are local to the area; so cost of flights and other travel expenses shouldn’t be a problem. I am heavily considering the eve of Thanksgiving because my mother and my best friend went to a wedding that was the night before thanksgiving last year and both said the weddings were packed with people.
Also, most people are home with family for thanksgiving which is why I considered that the night before might be a better day than Memorial Day or 4th of July when people are usually vacationing. I am also not 100% sure that everyone has off on memorial day or 4th of July.
Post # 3
Out of the three, I’d def. prefer Sunday night before Memorial Day.
Post # 4
Definitely Memorial Day. I’ve attended a handful of weddings that weekend and it’s never been an issue. I’m not to keen on midweek weddings. I think your turnout would be much better on a Sunday than a Wednesday when your guests will more than likely have to work or be traveling.
Post # 5
Either Memorial or July 4. Definitely not the night before Thanksgiving.
Post # 6
what about having it before sundown on a friday night or after sundown on a saturday? you can do the cocktail hour before the ceremony. i’ve seen a lot of weddings like this.
Post # 7
For some reason I chose Memorial Day, although July 3 sounds fun too.
If you’re “allergicbee” because of spring allergies, though, you may want to consider the July date instead. 🙂
Post # 8
Memorial Day, because the next day is most likely for people to have off from work, and unlike Thanksgiving, everyone won’t be potentially traveling.
Post # 9
Thank you everyone for your input so far, please keep the responses coming! I “should” mention that my SO is really still my bf but he bought the ring in December and has told me that the proposal will happen before/beginning of the summer, so if we do decide memorial day weekend, I really hope places will still have availability for 2013 by the time he proposes!
@Mrs. Meowerson: I can’t do it before Sundown on Friday because my dad’s side of the family is orthodox, and they won’t travel after sundown (neither will my dad). I mentioned doing it around 7pm on a Saturday night in the winter, when sundown is early (around 5pm)–but one of my best friends who would be a bridesmaid is orthodox and did not seem too keen on the idea; basically saying that she wouldn’t be there for pictures or anything….I am afraid her response might be an indicator of how my dads side of the family will feel…oy vey 😉
Post # 10
@zagora: hahaha noo I hate my stupid bee name…I made it allergicbee because I am allergic to bees…wish I could change it!!! haha I realize ppl prob see my name and think I’m one of those allergic to everything in life kind of people lol
ALSO, just curious for those who mentioned that they would prefer the day before Memorial Day, why would you rather that date to the night before July 4th?
Post # 11
@Dell79: got it. we are very reform, so i didn’t consider this. definitely complicates things!
Post # 12
i put memorial day because i am far less likely to have out of town plans on memorial day than july 4th.
Post # 13
Another Sunday vote here.
Post # 14
@Dell79: With the day before Memorial Day being Sunday, most people already have off Sundays, so they don’t (usually) have to worry about taking off early from work or leaving right from work. Then, they have the day off the next day also.
With 4th of July, it’s midweek so often you have to leave a little early from work. Plus, fewer people get off on 4th of July (although a lot of people still do), so they may not want to be out as late.
So, that’s why I would go with the Memorial Day over 4th of July. 🙂
Post # 15
Memorial Day because I would rather travel on a sat then in the middle of the week. But if the day before Thanksgiving is really an option, I would talk to your guests about it. Many might not care, and I know more schools/jobs give that day off than the day before the 4th. I would have a problem with it unless I was very local (which I know you said your guests are).
Post # 16
Like others, I vote the Sunday before Memorial Day.
For two reasons — It’s not midweek. Sunday weekings are becoming more popular anyway. Also, Thanksgiving is a HUGE holiday for a lot of people as far as travelling and family stuff and, at least for my family, July 4th is usually when we take our vacations. I don’t know the last time I was home for July 4th… But maybe that’s just me.