(Closed) Wedding on hold – mutual decision but feeling super sad

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
11239 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m so sorry, hon. My FI and I are the same way, although his communication style of of ignoring problems and shying away from confrontation is more from his ex screaming about everything (though partially because he’s one of those people that wants everyone to be happy and would rather bottle things up). I am aggressive, I know that. I do try to reign it in a little, but it’s hard–we’re dealing with this lately, actually.

What really helped the both of us was for me to remember to bring up things calmly. That can be hard for me, but I have to try to keep my voice quieter (um…normal people indoor voice) and not get worked up about things, which in turn makes him feel more comfortable to talk about things. This was probably the most difficult thing in our relationship.

I definitely know how you’re feeling. <3

Post # 4
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@CocoClassic:  try not to be too sad, you have simply delayed it probably by a few months:) you said your fiancee is a she…well I know what I can get like sometimes & could it be that she was just having a bad week? sometimes we get a bit frazzled & blow things out of proportion..maybe try couples councilling…sometimes people do it before getting married even if they DONT have any issues…the worst thing you can do is give in to the feelings of insecurity as that will make you really clingy and can push people away…good luck!

Post # 7
2972 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I’m sorry. I wish you good luck!

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