Post # 1
FI and I celebrate our dating anniversary every year which is 5/25/2009. The wedding date we have tentatively (he DEFINITELY wants it) is 5/25/2015, Monday of Memorial Day weekend. People typically have the day off, but have to work the next day. I am trying to convince him that Sunday 5/24/2015 will be better for us and our guests. We will also still get a discounted rate. Help settle this feud please…
Post # 3
Definitely go for Sunday. I do not understand the idea of HAVING to get married on your dating anniversary. Your wedding day is special because it is your wedding day. I have also been with my husband for 22 years and he always takes me to dinner on our dating anniversary – 2 celebrations!
People who need to travel will either not come or leave early if you go with Monday. Look at it from the guest’s perspective, “they had a 3 day weekend to do this and they chose Monday which means I have to ask for Tuesday off of work.”
Have you guys checked with your VIP’s to see if the holiday weekend will work? My Nephew got married on Memorial Day weekend 2 years ago – they chose Friday night. Everyone loved still having their holiday weekend to do as they wished. For our family, Memorial Day isn’t a big problem for a wedding. Now, 4th of July? People won’t be there because so many of us having standing vacation plans for that time of year and none of us are going to change them for a wedding.
BIG vote for Sunday on this one.
Post # 4
I likely would not attend a wedding on a holiday weekend like this, unless you were a very, very close friend or family member. We usually have other plans, plus traveling and hotels get super expensive on these weekends depending on the area you’re in.
However, if you’re set on that weekend, I would definitely pick Sunday. You leave Monday open for people to recover, or to travel back. You could host a Memorial Day brunch/bbq on Monday to still let people feel like they’re celebrating the holiday, too.
Post # 5
I understand why you want Monday but I would suggest an afternoon/brunch wedding. You will run into people leaving early like on a normal sunday wedding.
I think you should get married on whatever day you desire. It all depends if you are a stickler for having a lot of guests/certain people etc.
Post # 6
I am already a bit salty about weddings on 3 day weekends but if I loved you I’d come, however I’d be more than annoyed if it was Monday so on top of that 3 day weekend you excpected me to take off Tuesday to recover/travel home.
If most your guests are local and you’re not trying for an evening wedding Monday could work…
Just tell your FI that then youll have a double anniversary date! 5/24 AND 5/25 so you can do the celebrations up double for the rest of your lives!
Post # 7
I think the Sunday is better than Monday especially if you can still get a discounted rate.
I got married Sunday Memorial Day weekend and we had an amazing turnout, as a matter of fact people stayed late and the band played even longer, it was great….who doesn’t love a three day weekend? Listen to the stories of those who actually got married on the day not those who guess what it would be like. If you give enough notice (which seems like you would be able to given your timeframe) and know your guests you should have no concerns.
Post # 8
I would avoid holiday weekends all together. While you might get a discount for the wedding being on a Sunday, your guests will likely pay a lot more for a hotel since it’s a holiday weekend. Also, most people like to use Memorial Day to visit family.
Post # 9
Our dating anniversary is 5/25/2010 and we desperately wanted to get married on 5/25/2014!! But my sister got engaged first and she is getting married on 5/10/14, so no 5/25 for us. We are now getting married on 11/15/14, and at first i was devastated (first world problem!) but now I realize that there are a lot of pluses! Flights and hotels on memorial day weekend are significantly more expensive! Some people have annual traditions they would rather do than go to your wedding, they may have something already planned/booked- they want to be on the lake in their boat and not at your wedding. As for November, its off season, so we pay less for tha venue and catering. Now my birthday, Mother’s Day, and wedding anniversary aren’t the same month. We also get two holidays instead of one!
If you are set on Memorial Day weekend, I would do the Sunday. The guests who really love you will make the effort to be there. I would avoid Monday at all costs- most people can’t or won’t take off the Tuesday after a 3 day weekend for a wedding. It is really difficult for any out of town guests, and even in town guests may leave very early so they can be at work the next day. I totally get where your FI is coming from, but, honestly, unless you were one of my closest friends and it was in town, I wouldnt go and I wouldn’t stay past 8.
Post # 10
Thank you all SO MUCH. Sometimes it takes an outside voice to really prove a point. FI agrees that 5/24/15 is better. Thank goodness!A
Post # 11
I cannot believe I am the first one to say this. Getting married on Memorial Day is completely inappropriate. It is totally disrespectful to veterans, service members, and fallen soldiers, sailors, and airmen. The Saturday or Sunday would be fine, but on Memorial Day itself? I would be offended, and would send my regrets.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
What @Duncan: said. No. Just no. Highly disrespectful.
Post # 13
Oy, I probably wouldn’t go on either day. That weekend is AWFUL to travel.
Post # 14
While people DO have monday off, they don’t have Tuesday off. It’s the same issue with Sunday weddings. People have to work and will likely need to leave by supper time. If you have a lunch/afternoon reception, you may be in the clear, but if you plan on having a 7 pm dinner/reception, I would definitely do Sunday. (that’s how I voted)
Post # 15
What if you did Sunday, but at midnight (either at the reception or the after party (or yourselves – all depends on your plan for the evening) you do a champagne toast, or shot, or whatever, to your dating anniversary?Even if you don’t do that, do Sunday and then you and your new husband can spend your dating anniversary together celebrating privately.
I would not want to take an additional day off on a holiday weekend for anyone’s wedding. I probably would, but my job also provides oodles of leave. Most are not so lucky!
Post # 16
@EmieBee4: Go for Sunday. In my hometown, the annual Memorial Day parade and ceremony are held on Monday. I don’t know about the town you’ll be getting married in, but in my town that means Main Street is shut down to traffic for about 3 hours in the afternoon. . . which makes traveling difficult.
Personally, I’d probably just avoid that weekend all together – but thats mostly because my Dad is a Veteran and always takes part in the parade and other Memorial Day activities. . . and because traveling can be horrible.