(Closed) Wedding on my dad's birthday?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
11272 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@LilySarah:  if your dad doesn’t have a problem with it, do it.  some people really don’t mind sharing “their” day with someone.  i’ve been to a wedding on my bday, no problem.  i enjoyed spending my bday with friends.

Post # 4
46414 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@LilySarah:  I would go ahead and book the date. Your Dad is fine with it. As you grow older, birthdays really aren’t that big a deal.

I agree with you though, that I would honor  his birthday at the wedding.

Post # 5
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think as people get older they don’t really care about their birthdays anymore, except milestone birthdays. It seems like he is ok with it, so I don’t see a problem with it, honestly. Anniversaries are usually something you celebrate just between the two of you so honestly it probably won’t even create many issues in the future.


Post # 6
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t see a problem and especially if your Dad doesn’t see a problem then go for that date. I think it’s a nice gesture for you to sing him happy birthday, I don’t think that would take the spotlight off your wedding day at all.

Post # 7
2685 posts
Sugar bee

If your dad is happy with the wedding on his birthday, I think your extended family will follow suit.  What better birthday gift than to see his daughter married?  I could see some great photo opps if you had a separate cake made for him during the reception.  


The only thing I’d consider is how to celebrate your anniversary in the future.  If your family does like to be together for birthdays, this would make it tougher to go out of town or on a vacation for your anniversary.  Picking a different date would provide more flexibility for your future plans if that’s what you want.

Post # 8
2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If you’re dad is encouraging you, don’t worry about it. 🙂 Have your baker make an extra birthday cake for him, have a place near your gift table for birthdya presents, and just make sure that during yrou reception, people feel free to aknowledge the fact that two wonderful events are going on at the same time. 🙂 I tihnk it would be a nice memory for him!

Post # 9
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My first wedding was in 1989 and I chose my dad’s birthday … he was really honored!

Post # 10
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m 27 and couldn’t care less about my birthday. I’m sure he would be fine with it, especially if you’re super close. I think my stepdad would love it if my wedding were on his bday.

ETA : I think doing something to acknowledge his birthday at the wedding would be very sweet though

Post # 11
4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@LilySarah:  My BFF had her wedding on her dad’s birthday and she sang him happy birthday with all the guests as a surprise – it was very cute!  I say go for it!

Post # 12
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

If your dad is ok with it, that’s all that matters.  Don’t worry about what his side of your family might think.  You get one wedding day, and birthdays come every year.  I think it is really nice of your dad to be supportive of you picking that date.  If he doesn’t want his birthday acknowledged on the actually wedding so you and Fiance can have your day, what about a cake for him at the rehersal dinner?

Post # 13
9577 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t see a problem with it. 

Post # 14
2902 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think it’s fine. As others have said as the years go by you care less and less about birthdays. I mean, I love having a nice dinner and getting presents but if someone had their weddiing on my birthday I wouldn’t care at all. 

Post # 15
3283 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Sorry to disagree with PPs, but I *personally* wouldn’t do it. However, that doesn’t mean YOU shouldn’t do it. I know my dad and family would give me crap about it forever. That’s just my kooky family though–if you are positive your dad honestly wouldn’t mind, then I think you should go for it.

Post # 16
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I got married on my dads bday. We celebrated his bday (cake and presents the night before).  At the reception a song came on about birthdays and all my friends pulled him on the dance floor and made him dance which turned into everyone singing happy birthday. He was also the only person I allowed to request a song since it was his bday (he had them play my parents wedding song).

My fear was it would be our wedding date in the future and no longer his bday but we just visit him during the day and go out to dinner at some point.  I think he feels special sharing the day with us 🙂

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