(Closed) Wedding or courthouse….thats the question

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I went to a wedding once where the ceremony was in the courthouse to save money, and the reception was in a private room at this swanky restaraunt. It was still a VERY lovely affair! They courthouse was quite nice and they were actually allowed to decorate (as they were the last couple to get married that day they were given an hour to make the place pretty, and two people stayed behind to take it all down.

Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018 - Inn On Broadway

My boyfriend and I are going to have a courthouse wedding this December and then take our time to plan and save up money for a Catholic wedding and a reception. I used to work right next to City Hall in Manhattan and I saw such cute ceremonies everyday!!! So you can definitely have a nice courthouse wedding!!

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Do what’s best for you. You can even hire an officiant to meet you in any special public place to do a short ceremony and sign your certificate for you.

My Fiance and I are having our cultural ceremonies with family in November and January. However, due to some of his family believing in auspicious days vs not auspicious, they wanted us to do the actual legal paperwork/marriage at a different time (because the date I chose in november is only okay for the cultural ceremony lol). So, we are doing the paperwork/legal marriage this month in our area (which is nice since the rest is out of state – less hassle) on an auspicious date.

We originally were going to go with just going to the courthouse. We got our marriage license and unfortunately the courthouse didn’t have the date we needed available. So, we chose to hire an officiant to meet us at a park that means a lot to us. He’s literally only going to come to sign the paperwork (no ceremony stuff though they do offer that). I like that we’ll get to have the memory of signing it on the docks overlooking the water. It’s also nice to know we can have a private little special memory. It only costs 40 dollars to have him drive out to us and do the paperwork.

You can always do courthouse/officiant and do a big reception/party later or a vow renewal. Whatever works for you. ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m sure your family and friends will understand and be supportive considering all that you and your partner are dealing with right now. You can always make whatever type of moment you choose special and, likewise, you can always plan something later that’s more on the lines of a bigger wedding for the experience if that’s what you’re worried about missing.

Post # 19
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

My Darling Husband and I got married at a courthouse. I’ve had a few moments since we got married where I wondered if we should’ve had a bigger wedding, but then I think about our wedding day and how absolutely perfect it was. We dressed up and then went out to a fancy dinner afterwards. We didn’t have to have witnesses so it was just us, and I wouldn’t change anything about it! Darling Husband said it was the happiest day of his life and I completely agree.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee

txprincess11 :  If it were me, I would hold off, since there is so much stress going on right now. Why are you going to further burden yourself with a wedding, trying to pay for a wedding, all the crappy wedding drama and other such nonsense.  

Trust me. I get it. I too wanted a wedding, though I know I could have saved a ton of cash by going to the courthouse, but damnit I’m 40 and I felt like this is something that would be nice since I NEVER had a day that was about me. NEVER.

If you feel the same, then how about waiting? What’s the harm in that?

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I bet you could do 5k for 30-60 people no problem. Is that doable with your family? Have you looked into “semi” destination weddings? As in an area of the US that is cheaper? There was a bride on here recently posting about her 5k wedding in NC or SC I forget which– seemed like she was able to get a good bang for her buck in the area. What about a cake and punch reception? Public parks are often very very low cost to rent have you looked in your area? 

I am 100percent in support of courthouse weddings and against spending money you don’t have. But it sounds like you BOTH want a weddings and may both regret not having one? I think this is something you should explore before you make any decisions. We orriginally were talking courthouse but ultimately I knew I would regret it and so we opted for a smaller, less traditional restaurant wedding and I’m so glad we managed to compromise. 

 

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

txprincess11 :  I don’t think that having a full blown wedding is a huge deal, but it doesn’t mean that you have to just go to the court house.  Do a romantic elopment instead!  Choose a location that means something to you, get an officiant, bring a bottle of champagne, and follow up afterwards with a romantic dinner for two.  Maybe invite your best friends and see if they’ll take pics.

Post # 25
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Helper bee

Such a great update! Wonderful news!

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