Post # 1
my name is cynthia and i am 22 years old my fl is 23 we both work full times jobs and go to school we live in the san bernardino ca area
we want to get married around the end of 2015 or being of 2016 but seeing that all the prices will be more expenseve in 2016 where leaning towards 2015 around oct. i really want an outside wedding around 70-80 ppl but i have been looking every where and the least im going to spend is 10k and thats a basic wedding including everything i know to some 10k is very little but for me its alot now i already have 4000 saved and my fl is saving the rest and where going to have family help as well but then it hit me
should i have a wedding or buy a home with that money? 10k is a good down payment
i wish i could do both but i dont have that type of money
why didnt they tell me i should have started saving for my wedding since i was born.
i need help
wedding or house?
if i have a wedding does anyone know of any outside wedding around San bernardino area thats not to expenseve ? or other options?
Post # 2
If a house is very important to you, I’d use the money for that rather than a party. However, it’s not impossible to have an inexpensive wedding, just harder than if you had a bunch of money to use on it. We spent 6k for 115 people on a Friday night, and it was all perfect. There’s tons of things you can do to have both a wedding and money leftover towards a house down payment!
Post # 3
House! You will always need a place to live and marriage is NEVER 100%, especially in this day and age.
Post # 4
The answer will always be house for me.
Post # 5
If it was between those two with the money I had, I would hands down go for a house.
Post # 6
I look at it this way, a wedding is 10 hours of your life, a house is something you build a life in together. There is no competition in my mind.
Post # 7
A wedding is one party on one day. A house is something that you will use and enjoy for years and (presumably) get your money back out of it when/if you sell. The house is an investment, the wedding is a one shot deal. I’d go for the house with a smaller wedding.
Post # 8
House. No question. You could always do a really cute little courthouse ceremony with a relaxed/casual party afterwards with family and friends on the cheap.
I was veto’d on having a courthouse ceremony and party afterwards and pushed into having a huge wedding. When I think about how much money is being spent on a one day party, it makes me sick. I wish more than anything we could have used the money on a house, new car, or even just put in savings!
Plus, what is important is the marriage… not the wedding.
Post # 9
House first, wedding later!! Trust me you want to live together before!
Post # 10
A house is more worth the money
Post # 11
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
Where are you two living now? An apartment? With parents? How important is it for the two of you to own a home right away? Is renting an option? If you’re struggling for a downpayment on a home, are you going to earn enought to comfortably live in it after and pay for all the bills and upkeep a household requires? A house is forever and there’s always going to be options, a wedding happens (hopefully) once in your lifetime, how invested are you in celebrating it exactly how you want? Is it possible to save a little for both at the same time? It would require pushing off the wedding a little bit, but then that way when you do get married you won’t feel like you have no fall back whatsoever when it comes to saving for a house (this is sort of what I did).
I guess the way I see it, there’s a lot of variables. My Fiance and I don’t yet live in our own place. We live with my parents as we save for the wedding. I didn’t really want to move in together until after we were married, call me old fashioned. However, the goal is to move out and rent a home after we’re wed as we won’t have enough for a downpayment but can support ourselves otherwise after we won’t be tucking away so much for the wedding.
We’re already exploring possible housing options. None of them are extremely extravagent or close to actually purchasing a home. But it’s not like we’re throwing in the towel in just because we spent a lot on a wedding instead of a downpayment. Maybe it’ll mean a year or two in a cramped apartment or trailor home to save up. That’s okay with us. We’ll be married, in our first home and working toward that new goal of our first house. It works for us and we’re both on board with it, and I think you need to examine some of these details with your Fiance before making any rash decisions. It’s always going to be a lot of money either way. The nice thing is there’s always potential to make more of it.
Edit: And as someone living in the Bay Area, I personally don’t think 10k is going to get very far when it comes to a downpayment. For sure, I don’t know how your housing market is compared to ours, but make sure you have a good understanding of how much it could really wind up costing.
Post # 12
if it were me, I’d get the house. I would get a nice dress and have Fiance get dressed nicely so we could have some good pictures of our wedding and then I’d do a close family dinner. Done and done.
Post # 13
Honestly if you have a choice for a house or a wedding. I go for the house. A wedding is one day of your entire life. A house is a lifetime.
Post # 14
House is my vote but a marriage certificate first. Head down the the courthouse and legally bind yourselves before making a huge purchase like that together. Good luck! You’ve got time, thankfully 🙂
Post # 15
Wedding is day, a home is for much longer than that. I’d always vote for house.
As PP said courthouse wedding with casual post party would be charming and not break the bank.