(Closed) Wedding or house?!?!?!?! HELP.

posted 5 years ago in Finances
  • poll: Wedding or House?




  • Post # 2
    250 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I think buying a house is a much a better use of your money.  While of course I understand wanting all of his or your family to be present, if you still want a wedding than you will need to cut that guest list down.  Why not consider having a more intimate ceremony/reception?  You could consider doing it at a restaurant vs. a traditional wedding venue as you mentioned usually wedding venues are very expensive!  I think most families would understand that a house takes priority over a party, especially if the family isn’t financially contributing.

    Post # 3
    5934 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    hairstylist101 :  The first time I got married I reeeeeeeeally wanted a house and not a wedding. My husband was Catholic so it was important for him to be married in the church and he wanted the wedding so I caved. I mean, it was a great day, but I still would’ve rather had that house. It didnt’ take us too long after to get one, though. A few years, I think.

    Post # 4
    9375 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    hairstylist101 :  I spent well over $20k and don’t regret it one bit. BUT I already had a house. Although I did choose the wedding over the kitchen renovations and I don’t regret that either (but a few years later I’m getting antsy to do this reno….)

    If it had been a choice between buying a home and a wedding I’d buy the house every time. 

    Post # 5
    1555 posts
    Bumble bee

    As much fun as a PARTY can be, I would be practical and spend it on a house. 

    Post # 6
    590 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2017 - Nepal

    I went through the same exact dilemma. We want back and forth for two years and finally decided to put the wedding funds towards a down payment on a house. Weddings are also stupid expensive where I live (Northern California). While I also really wanted a wedding, spending 30k+ on one day seemed crazy. What about having a small destination wedding? By the way, you are very mature for your age. Had I gotten married at 22, I would have hands down picked a wedding. 

    Post # 7
    9565 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Obviously a house is more practical but I’m not going to lie I’d still want a wedding even if it meant delaying buying a home for a few years, especially if I was as young as you. Would you be willing to do cake and punch or another cheaper alternative so you can do both? Or can you really not elope? People would get over it. 

    Post # 8
    1162 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    House.  Get married at the new house, invite as many as will fit.

    Post # 9
    943 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think house trumps wedding. We had a house when we were married but had we not had one, I would have definitely put the money towards buying a home 

    Post # 10
    119 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2017 - Living Desert Zoo and Gardens

    I’d see how you can find cheaper options to still have a wedding of that size! It’s possible to do it cheaper, you might just have to compromise on extra aspects. Cheap venues are out there, look at public places or places owned by the city. Perhaps an appetizer reception instead of a sitdown dinner, find a student photographer instead of a professional, a cheaper dress? There’s lots of ways to cut down! Or take longer to save up to have it. A wedding is special, but to get a house would make a huge financial difference to you in the long run. 

    Post # 11
    131 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    have a big wedding in the park or a church, for practically nothing, do it in the mid afternoon and serve cake and punch. keep it casual. 

    Seriously buy the house. A house sets up your future for life. A 30,000 dollar party is one day. ONE DAY. that’s it.

    Post # 12
    982 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    I would 100% go for buying the house. I see it as much more important than having a big wedding. If I were you, I would either make the 10k work for a wedding, or else waiting a year or two more to get married so that you can save up for the big wedding that you want.

    I do get your dilemma though. It is very hard to choose the more practical thing against your true desires. You’re very lucky to have a Fiance who is willing to go against his own wishes to make you happy. I would still keep in mind what HE wants, though, and take that into account in your decision making. Although he is willing to do what you want, I would be very hesitant to make a big decision like this without considering what he wants.


    Post # 13
    692 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

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    hairstylist101 :  if you are flexible with wedding dates, you could probably do both.

    if you would/coulc consider the friday or saturday after thanksgiving (or less desirable dates like that) and do research on venues… you could probably budget for both a wedding and the house. i also live in a very very expensive area and we looked at venues for thanksgiving weekend and we got quotes for 150-200, full on wedding with most of the bells and whistles, for around 12K. 



    Post # 14
    7852 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    A year after the wedding which choice do you think you’ll wish you had made? 

    Have a small wedding in your new backyard. Have your cake and eat it, too!!

    Post # 15
    501 posts
    Busy bee

    I just wanna know where you’re buying with $20K so I can move there. Lol. 

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