(Closed) Wedding or House?

posted 10 years ago in Money
  • poll: Would you forgo a wedding in order to get into your dream house faster?



    Other; please explain.

  • Post # 3
    6350 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Yes. We wanted to get married ASAP but are waiting to buy our house first. A great offer came up to buy a house for alot less than we ever thought we’d get it for.

    We used our wedding fund to complete our down payment. Sometimes it really sucks. I go through should we just Justice of the Peace it or save up and have a wedding in 18 months…

    Post # 4
    63 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2006

    I’m happy that we had our wedding and don’t regret it, but sometimes I look around our condo that we own but can’t sell and wish we had the extra money to put down for a down payment on a house (so we could buy one without selling the condo) or to pay off student loans or to do a bunch of other more fiscally responsible things.

    Post # 5
    129 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    We bought a house after getting engaged and waited to plan the wedding.  It’s worked out great so far.

    Post # 6
    5992 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    and his parents are giving us 10k as a wedding gift

    my only concern is when his folks gifted you the $10K did they have a expectation on it being spent for a wedding?

    i would happily forgo a wedding for a house but i wouldnt expect the same from everyone else, i guess it depends on what level your priorities and wants are


    Post # 7
    3756 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I wish we could even think about buying a house… we will be moving so much because of the military so it doesn’t make sense to buy =(

    Post # 8
    7769 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would chose a house over a wedding, but why would you have to chose?  I personally wouldn’t want to spend a lot on a wedding, I would have a small inexpensive one.

    Post # 9
    381 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We bought the house first, got engaged 5 months later and then had a relatively inexpensive wedding that we paid for ourselves. My parents gave me the choice, house or wedding for the $ they were going to give me, the choice was an easy one for me. 

    Post # 11
    13 posts
    • Wedding: September 2010

    hmm I think it really depends on your situation. For my hubs and I– our wedding was about $35k and my inlaws paid about $15k. Out of the CASH gifts from out wedding, we made more than what us and my inlaws paid. So in our case, we made money from the wedding and all that money is going towards a future down payment.

    If you had your wedding, how long would it take you and your Fiance to save 20k?

    Post # 12
    10361 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Down payments in the bay area (where we are moving this year) are $100,000+, otherwise, yes, we would have gone without a wedding for a house. Our wedding wouldn’t even dent that kind of down payment, so we are doing both (the house is about 2 years away, though)

    Post # 13
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I would have the wedding, TBH. Once you have a house, house things start to happen. Are you going to put your heart and soul into your wedding still, or is that going to go to the house and the wedding be an after thought?

    Your kids will grow up in a house that they will know, and will remember regardless. It’s just a building. A wedding is something they’ll grow up fantasizing about with your pictures. Don’t be afraid to have your dream wedding.

    Post # 15
    431 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I would do an adorable, small JofP wedding w/ a restaurant reception ala Mrs. Mary Jane.  That being said, I do not in any way regret my “large” (~120 ppl) wedding, but do wish we had more money to throw at our condo so we could pay it off and move.  (The housing market is so poor in Chicago that we would get less than 1/2 of what we paid.  We’d be able to save majorly on a house in a nearby suburb, but we’d owe the bank on the condo & wouldn’t have a down payment.  Quite a “catch 22”.  You have to prioritize and do what’s right for you.  It sounds like you’d rather buy a house & start a family instead of the wedding hullaballoo.  Good luck in your decision.

    Post # 16
    14181 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    A house is a home…a wedding is a celebration/party. If we could’ve only afforded one, it would not have been the latter

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