(Closed) WEDDING or NO WEDDING??? That is the question-HELP!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you are already legally married, why don’t you wait until an anniversary to do the big wedding thing? Maybe when things in your life calm down a bit.

Post # 5
2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I understand the lack of joy over not having a “wedding”.  I will be legally married around six months before our “wedding”.  It will literally just be a signing of papers before he goes in to the military. Nothing exciting about that!

I know you want your perfect day and you could wait and hope it works out next year on your anniversary or your parent’s anniversary, etc.  then everyone may be free to come.  However you may plan it for next year and some other issues may arise that keep some folks away.

I guess you have to decide if you can live with waiting another year for your big day or can you live with your Boyfriend or Best Friend and SIL not being there.  Hard choices.  I don’t envy you!

By the way it looks like it will be a gorgeous wedding whenever you decide to have it!!!

Post # 6
7692 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It sounds like the Future In-Laws could travel and be there during the week? Could you do a Friday night?  What about the your brother the minister and his family-if you have it toward the end of the week the baby will be about a month old-can they still not make it ?  What about Friday,  June 17?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       

Post # 9
7692 posts
Bumble Beekeeper


I traveled 1/2 way across the country with my 6 week old son to my Future In-Laws 2nd wedding.  Infants that young don’t need a lot.  They are sleeping a lot!!

Post # 10
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@creativeplannertobee: soooo true.

however, speaking as someone who’s had 2 c-sections and a SIL who had one also, traveling isn’t ALWAYS that comfy after a c-section.  It depends on the woman and her pain threshold.  (I have an abnormally HIGH threshold, so it wouldn’t bother me a bit… my Fiance would probably be the one arguing against it.)

Personally, I’m partial to June 12th (my daughter’s b-day, hehehehehe), but I think you should go with the date available where the majority of the family can come.

good luck and I hope it all works out the best for you!!!!!  

Post # 11
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oh.. Im sorry waiting is awful!!! I really have no advice.. Maybe try to do a weekday wedding.. But if June 12th is the day that most of the families can make it do it then. I wish you the best of luck, and Im sorry your plans were ruined the first time around.

Post # 12
4109 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

So sorry 🙁 You have waited a long time! You deserve to have it how you want it & receive all the support you can get from your family/friends attendence.

Has there been a deposit made for that venue? (looks gorgeous btw) If so, can it be applied to another (later) date? If it were me, I’d (if possible) push the date back another month or two to a date where your best friend, brother’s family & hubby’s parents can all attend. I know that I would regret not having those people there, especially since you’re traveling all the way from Japan!! When else will they get to see you guys, you know? You have to make this visit count for as much as possible.

p.s. is that cake photo one your mom actually made? it’s stunning!

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