Post # 1
Hi Bees! Firstly, let me start by saying that I love you all. You’re all so helpful with this whole engagement/ starting to plan process… It’s so nice having a community of women (and a few men!) who I can turn to with things like this since most of my friends are unwed (:
So in January, we’re having our official engagement party/ introduction of the families (my family to his)/ introduction of the wedding party. We’ll be 16 months out from the wedding, so we thought it would be an appropriate time to do this even though we’ve been engaged since July.
Anyway! FI is planning on asking his brother Chris to be a groomsman or his best man. Chris will be 21 at the time of the wedding.
But FI also has Nick (who will be 18), Rachel (who will be 20), Clara (who will be 16), and Katie (who will be 10 or 11).
My brother will be almost 19 at the time of our wedding.
FI suggested that Katie be the flowergirl. Well, I will have a two year-old cousin who she could co-flowergirl with, so I’m fine with this. And I also have another two year-old cousin to-be who could be ring-bearer, but I’m not sure who could accompany him down the aisle.
Anyway, I don’t know how to involve my brother or FI’s other three siblings. We’re set on our groomsmen and bridesmaids, so we wouldn’t add them there. Our ushers will be FI’s Marine friends…
How do I include our siblings in some way? Help!
Post # 3
I would have them be the ushers and not the marine friends actually. And it is really strange that one brother will be in the wedding, but not the other. If I were the brother that was left out I would be upset.
Or make up other roles.
They could do a reading in the ceremony.
Or you could do a unity candle ceremony and have them walk down the aisle with the candles so they are part of the wedding party, but not traditional BMs. Kind of like adult flower gils, but with candles instead (or other item used in the ceremony)
Post # 4
@ThreeMeers: FI really wants us to walk through an arch of swords after the ceremony… The Marine Corps is a really big deal to him, so I felt that this is something that we should absolutely do. He doesn’t ask for much (:
And yeah, I know that it’s weird that he’s leaving a brother out… They’ve never really been close, but he and his brother Chris are very close. That’s why I need to find another role for Nick; I don’t want him to feel left out!
I like the idea of siblings doing readings, but there are a total of four siblings (three of his, one of mine), and I feel like I’d like maybe just one of them to do a reading. Thank you!
Post # 5
I think having them do a reading is a great idea 🙂
Post # 6
@Britk: He could still the the arch of swords without assigning the marines as ushers. Then everyone has a role. Ushers can be girls too.
Post # 7
I think that I could have Rachel do a reading, have my brother and Nick be ushers, and find something else for Clara to do then (: